Sloane Crosley – “Grief is for People” | The Daily Show

I lost my 17 yr old brother in a car accident when I was 12yr. I can relate to the uncomfortable nature surrounding grief, cause not only did people, my peers especially, not know what to say to me, but it also made *me* uncomfortable. I remember a few years later at a pep rally, the band/guests, whoever they were, who were speaking/performing at the pep rally spoke of my brother's passing. They remembered the last time they were at our school 3 years earlier, how a junior student (my brother) had died. I was embarrassed by it. Of course I swelled up with emotion at the mention of him, but at the same time, I sunk down in my seat, not wanting to b noticed tearing up. I was ashamed, embarrassed, & horrified of any attention it might bring me. Of course, as I've grown up & matured, I realize the undue burden of others' squeamishness that I placed on myself not wanting to make others uncomfortable, when I honestly should've just allowed myself to grieve. I added to my suffering by pushing down those feelings & not wanting them to b seen publicly because I must've sensed people's reaction & not wanted them to b uncomfortable. I sensed that at 12. Of course as adults we're more tuned in to cues & body language, so I imagine many who grieve are influenced by a desire to filter or conceal their grief in order to cater to others, when I think we'd mostly all agree, in actuality, it should b quite the opposite. At our darkest moments, the comfort level of others should *not* b a priority. Sadly, for me it was. Here's hoping for others, they don't feel this burden.

I love when she said her friend’s life was not about the last decision he made, or something like that. There were a whole bunch of years of great times and laughs before that. That’s how I’m going to think about my grief now.

What a cool conversation. At 77..believe me I've gone through grief from loss more than I ever expected. Eventually it moves to the back of the bus...but it never goes away..it just quietly chips away at your heart.

Those of us who have lost our Persons love being asked about them. Thank you, Michael Kosta for asking the question.

A Grief Observed is an amazing book that's helped me through so much grief.

Heartfelt interview about the realities of the human experience. Thank you 🙏

Great to see authors and poets being interviewed.

Sloane's books are great. She's an excellent humorist. I'm so very here for the grief next.

The lovely Sloane Crosley!

I’ve been been providing grief counselling as a therapist for many years. The part most struggle with is letting go of the grief as people sometime believe” if I stop grieving I no longer love or care for the person” , however, letting go of the grief means the love for the person will live forever in your heart and memories move from constant sadness to reflexive happiness. ….If the grief continues on past two years then there are broader issues ie., clinical depression etc.