3 Reasons Your Kid Won't Follow Directions

I came back to comment because I was skeptical that the advice you gave in the video would work. I definitely thought I was already giving clear directions, but I was actually making statements. Over the last week, I’ve been giving clear, timestamped directions in a firm voice and it’s been effective at least 95% of the time. Thank you!

Do I have kids? No. Am I paying attention to this advice like I have 10 kids? Absolutely 😂😅

For leaving the park, I give a pre-talk. We will be here for 1 hour. Then I tell them 30 > 15 > 10 > 5 > 1 min left. Give them one last chance to go down the slide and then it's time to go. Hold their hand and redirect them to getting enthusiastic about the next activity, usually lunch or snack time. Also, actively play with them if there's no other kids their age. Now for vegetables, I believe it's important to have them try a little of everything. They don't have to finish it. If you left it up to them, you'd have kids that just refuse to eat vegetables all together. I know several grown men like this. Sometimes it helps to go back to the drawing board on how a vegetable is cooked/presented. Seasoned and roasted is often tastier than boiled or even steamed. And sometimes you can "hide" pureed veggies in other dishes, especially ones with sauces. Get creative.

I have 5 kids and often teach other children. You know another tip that gets their attention every time and helps them want to obey? SING your instructions. Works EVERY time.

I got the shit beat out of me a few times and then I’d learn whatever my parents wanted me to learn. So doing it a different way feels like I’m walking around blind. So grateful to have this lesson here. I’ll try on the playground tomorrow! 😅

My husband was always able to get the kids to follow his directions & I didn't know how he did it. Finally I realised why. He was instructing them as to what he wanted, not giving them options. I always gave them leading options, not directives and spent all day stressing because it took forever to get them to do anything. This info is so important.

This is great, how do I stop yelling tho 🤣🤣🤣

I have an almost 3 year old son and I’ve been using this advice for the past 2 days, and I’m so happy to say that it’s extremely effective!!! This is what I’ve been looking for, I knew that my son wasn’t just “bad” he just needs the right guidance from me. I’m sharing this with everyone. Thank you so much.

This is the one YT channel I turned app notifications on for. Some of the best advice for modern day parents!

One great thing about your videos is that you walk the walk, even when you’re talking to grownups—in another video you talked about constant eye contact with the child you’re addressing, close proximity, clear directions and promises of reward for work well done. Meanwhile, you’re doing all this to the camera, giving us an example as you explain. I’m just learning to address groups of kids for a new job I have, and your videos are giving me confidence. I predict I’ll be referring back to your channel often. Thank you!