How Humans Raised Children 1000 Years Ago - Dr Paul Turke

My wife and I both grew up with parents who were constantly dumping us on our grandparents and both sets were very involved in our childhoods. Now, my mom and my wife's parents are barely ever willing to watch or spend time with our kids. They help at a cursory level when it's convenient for them, but nowhere nearly as involved as our grandparents were.

We have been telling ourselves for decades that the path to happiness is Autonomy, Consumption, and Radical Individualism and most people are Alone, Anxious and Unhappy in modern, Industrialized countries.

“Touch is the most fundamental sense. A baby experiences it, all over, before he is born and long before he learns to use sight, hearing, or taste, and no human ever ceases to need it. Keep your children short on pocket money but long on hugs.” -Robert Heinlein

I'm forever grateful to my husband for being supportive and making it possible for me to stay home with my children for nearly 12 years. I breastfed both until nearly 2 years, co-slept with each for 7-8 months, and had them strapped to me in carriers for hours every day. It felt so natural, yet I learned to expect weird looks from people if they learned any of that. They're both some of the most independent, high-achieving, well-adjusted kids in their respective friend groups.

Our childs grandparents have recentley realised they need to, and want to step up. They have realised we need help, that we are not doing well with no help at all. And also that they actually like spending time with their grandkids. The relief is immense. Cannot describe how much lighter everything feels. Just knowing someone now actually WANTS to helps us. We felt so alone.

My grandma died when I was 35, and from the time I was 4 until the day she died my favorite thing in the world was spending the night at grandma and grandpa's house. Everyone should be so lucky to have awesome grandparents. It really does make a difference in people's lives.

Wife and I have three grandchildren living in same city as us. We are both retired and love spending lots of time with them. When our daughter had to return to work we volunteered to take care of 5 month old grandson instead of day care center. It's a lot of work but we enjoy it immensely. Can't understand mentality of grandparents who don't want to be bothered.

We were taught, as a lactation counselor, that breastfeeding not only cuts the mother's risk for breast cancer by approx 50%, it ALSO does the same for their breastfeeding child. ❤

When my wife got pregnant, my parents insisted that we moved close to them, and we did. We have a duplex where my parents live on the main floor and we live on the second floor. My parents were and still are tremendous help to us, especially since we have twins. But the one that got helped the most is my father. Since he was 69 years old, and he'd been retired for a few years and was going crazy at home, but now, with my kids around, he has a second lease on life!

Hello you beauties. Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Evolutionary Parenting 05:40 The Evolutionary Role of Grandparents 13:33 Why Menopause Occurs 18:22 How Modern Parenting is Encouraging Anxiety 24:56 Is Leaving Kids at Daycare Beneficial? 29:39 Sleeping Habits of Ancient Children 33:47 The Evolutionary Reason for Why Kids Act Out 37:01 Advantages of Breastfeeding 42:30 The Medicalisation of Childbirth & Childcare 51:23 How Society Could Have Avoided a Rise in Food Allergies 59:50 The Growth of Obesity in Kids 1:03:32 Are We Overusing Medication? 1:06:48 What an Evolution-Focused NICU Would Look Like 1:11:20 Risks in Misapplying Evolutionary 1:14:58 Where to Find Paul