How To Stop Being A People Pleaser - Dr Julie Smith

I'll watch this after I'm done running errands for everybody else

Crazy how generally people actually respect you more for saying no

Used to be a huge people pleaser, then I got into a relationship with a abusive, toxic woman. When I broke up with her that’s when I finally learned my lesson. A lot of us people pleasers don’t want others to experience discomfort or be upset. We take it upon ourselves for everyone to be satisfied, a lot of times at our own expense or discomfort. The thing is, these people that you please dont give a single F. They won’t hesitate to spit on your face, hurt you, disrespect you. You can do 1000 things for them and it’s meaningless. Good, loyal, honest, people are RARE if you feel like you are being used it’s because you are. An actual good person knows not to abuse a persons kindness or low self esteem.

Nothing works on Narcissists - just stay away from them :)

as a big people pleaser this is very very interesting small podcast. excited for the full version

As a recovering people pleaser, this is great! I learned that the way out of this is simply telling the truth. I've started saying to people, "let me think about it." I'm so used to automatically saying "yes!!" that I've needed a minute (or a day or two) to actually consider whether or not I want to do something. You also learn quickly who is here with you out of love or out of a what you can give them. It's been a huge wake up call.

I started gently saying no to people, and then discovered how offended they are when I don't do what they want me to do. It's pretty revealing. Don't beat yourself up for displeasing people whose friendship is based on what you can do for them. (That's actually a lesson I learned from a different Chris Williamson episode.)

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Watching this just because i do not want to disappoint Chris and Julie

This just changed my life