The Best Relationship Advice No One Ever Told You

“If you can’t end your complaining about it, then it’s a dealbreaker.”

If you’re scrolling through the comments looking for a sign, this might be it. If it’s late, take a deep breath, let go of what’s been weighing on you, and remember, it’s okay not to have all the answers right now. I used to feel disconnected, like I was missing something in my relationships and within myself. But everything started to change after I came across a book called Make Her Your Pet by Helena Averton. It’s written in a way that really opens your eyes to how men and women connect on a deeper level, without games, without confusion. Just real clarity. Funny enough, although it’s written for men, it helped me reflect a lot on my own patterns and how I show up in relationships. It reminded me that connection doesn’t have to be so complicated when you actually understand each other. Since then, things have started to feel different, more aligned, more intentional. If you're feeling a little lost in love or just unsure of where you stand, don’t ignore that feeling. Sometimes one small shift - one thought, one idea, one page, one book - can change everything. Wishing you peace and all the best wherever you are 💫💞

amazing video. I’m in such deep pain right now, lost in the sweet memories of our time together. Every moment we shared fills my heart, and all I long for is his return even though I’m not sure how to make that happen.

“The best way to grow your. Marriage is to grow yourself.” “If you don’t have a purpose for yourself, you will blame your marriage.” You were not put on this earth to be somebody’s spouse. You are responsible for clearly communicating your needs so your partner knows.

“During crisis, don’t lean away from each other but lean into each other.. “❤

Bottom line is we're terrible communicators. We brew all our emotions in our head and conclude communicating is pointless.. :( Mel, can you help us all open up and communicate better? 😊

This was awesome you two. If you don’t mind, I'd just like to add a couple of things that I've learned after having a couple of practice runs at this 😂. I've been married to my husband for 14 yrs this month. It's not enough to just be on the boat. You can be on the boat technically but sitting on the edge with one leg dangling in the water, waiting for that one reason to jump ship. My advice is this, firstly, marriage is the boat — sturdy, long-haul, built for the open seas. But don’t just hop into the boat with the first person who hands you a paddle. Before you commit to sailing off together, you better make sure you’ve at least gone for a swim, maybe paddled around in a kayak, or waded through some tides together. Test the waters, learn each other’s rhythm in the current. Because once you're in the boat, you're navigating storms, not just floating on sunshine. Because once you’re in the boat, you’re in. This is not a casual float down a lazy river. It’s storms, waves, still waters, and sunrises. If you're constantly eyeing the edge or talking or thinking about jumping ship, you’ll never make it to shore. The boat only works when both people are committed to rowing — no escape plans, no lifeboats ready. Just two people who’ve chosen the journey, come what may. That said — if the person in the boat with you starts drilling holes, trying to sink it, (cheating) or worse, trying to drown you (abusive)— you bail. No questions asked. Self-preservation isn’t abandonment. It’s survival.

My parents were best friends since childhood and they chose to get legally married and create me. People should marry their best friends. Who have known them for years. My parents had a happy marriage. My father is dead now but my mom is still alive.

"Do overs" are a great way to stop a fight and come together to figure out what to do to make peace and resolve.

Chris seems like a very kind person.