Men, This Is How Women Think

I am a 54 year old woman and I learned a long time ago not to tell my husband a problem that I did not want a solution to. Men are problem solvers and fixers for their women. It is unnatural for them to not want to fix your problems. Be grateful that he cares enough.

As a woman, I DO want to hear the logical solution/feedback… I don’t want a bunch of women blindly affirming any and all bad behavior.

Honestly, when she started sing-talking, I hit the major eye roll. Lord help me.

I am 71. I learned to let my husband know that I needed to vent, not for him to find a solution. (He actually suggested this.) I also have female ‘fixers’ who need to know up front. It worked well for 40 years. I sadly lost my best friend and Definitely best confident 6 years ago upon his passing.

My man just tried solving it so that voice would stop

I can respect the notion of just wanting someone to listen. Where she loses me, however, is the need to just validate her and her feelings and telling her she is completely right and everyone else is completely wrong. That is nonsensical.

12 years of marriage later my wife and I can still sit down and just unload on each other about our day. However it's just that unloading, not promoting the righteousness of the others decisions. I can be wrong and my wife can point out what I can't see and help me grow without repercussions. My wife is not always right and I can point that out without repercussions. Listening, aiding and guiding for the sake of growth is a great thing. Realize men nor women are always right in every situation just because they are men or women. If you as a man or woman require your other half to defend your decision that not only shows the wrongness of your decision but also the immaturity of your mindset at the time of your decision.

A woman who expects to be told she’s right all the time definitely doesn’t need to go to a man for it.

Children think like her. Mature humans don't worry, overmuch, about this.

My city has opened a few non alcoholic bar/nightclubs and it has turned out to be a wonderful way for people in recovery to find a sense of community. There has always been community within meetings and group therapy, but eventually an addict has to re enter the rest of society. Socializing with people who don’t compromise their sobriety is important. Your social circles have a lot of effect on you.