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Harvard’s Behaviour Expert: The Psychology Of Why People Don't Like You!

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Why do your conversations keep going wrong? Harvard behavioural scientist Professor Alison Wood Brooks reveals the SECRETS to better communication, real connection, negotiation skills and difficult conversations! Professor Alison Wood Brooks is a behavioural scientist with 2 decades of experience in conversational science. She teaches a Harvard course on negotiation and communication, and is the bestselling author of ‘Talk: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves’. She explains: ◼️The ONE word that transforms anxiety into peak performance ◼️The TALK framework for mastering any conversation ◼️Why being "too polite" is secretly destroying your relationships ◼️Why 99% of apologies fail, and the exact formula that works ◼️The question technique that creates connection with anyone 00:00 Intro 02:20 People Need This to Communicate Well 04:24 Giving Wrong Impressions 06:09 Being a Better Speaker and Group Conversations 11:17 Experimenting With Communication Skills With My Identical Twin 12:26 The Science on How to Reframe Anxiety 18:33 If You're Nervous, You're More Likely to Make a Bad Decision 20:02 Asking for a Salary Raise 24:26 The Conversational Compass 32:31 How People Should Really Apologize and When It's Too Much 37:17 The Validation Trick in Any Dispute 41:46 Don't Do This When You Disagree 46:05 Stop Doing This During Disagreements 47:53 How to Be Liked 49:48 The T-A-L-K Framework 51:33 Easy Ways to Have More Casual Conversations 54:59 If You Want to Be Liked, Don't Do This 59:10 The Importance of Asking in Conversations and Dates 01:03:13 Never Do This on a Date 01:07:13 The Meeting Mistake You Shouldn't Make 01:09:14 Poor Communication Skills Might Be Holding Back Your Career 01:11:48 Ads 01:12:39 The Importance of Kindness in Any Conversation 01:17:06 When to Incorporate Levity 01:23:42 The Science Behind Introverts and Extroverts — Is It Real? 01:27:03 Your Contribution Score in a Conversation 01:41:46 Ads 01:43:42 The Male Crisis: Ask These Questions to Make Friends 01:52:43 10 Questions to Be Liked 01:56:29 How to Persuade People and Be a Better Salesperson 01:58:33 People Confuse Agreement With Listening 02:09:07 This Is the Only Conversation That Feels Real 02:14:44 What Happens When Replacing Myself With AI 02:19:09 Show Your Real Self at Work: Yes or No? 02:25:01 How to Teach Your Kids to Speak Follow Alison: Instagram - https://bit.ly/3YoQOc4 Website - https://bit.ly/4aH172A TalkStudios - https://bit.ly/3MzbXxF You can purchase Alison’s book, ‘Talk: The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves’, here: https://amzn.to/498C3QQ The Diary Of A CEO: ◼️Join DOAC circle here - https://doaccircle.com/ ◼️Buy The Diary Of A CEO book here - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook ◼️The 1% Diary is back - limited time only: https://bit.ly/3YFbJbt ◼️The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards (Second Edition): https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb ◼️Get email updates - https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt ◼️Follow Steven - https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Sponsors: Wispr - https://wisprflow.ai/DOAC Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett SimpliSafe - https://simplisafe.com/DOAC to save 50% on a SimpliSafe home security system. Ketone - https://ketone.com/STEVEN for 30% off your subscription order

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@teresalucas657 2025-12-16

My wise aunt of 100 years old told me it’s none of your business what other people think of you! It only matters what you feel in your heart about yourself that will carry you through life through good times and bad!

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@ourtruth216 2025-12-15

I don’t want to be liked, I just want to be left alone. I don’t want to be forced to fit in to societal norms that are already flawed. I’m not going to gossip to make friends or drink to have fun. I say hello when I see you and it’s not personal the times I don’t. It’s really that simple for me ❤

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@TheDiaryOfACEO 2025-12-15

Do you like these types of convos? If so please hit the like button on the vid - that’s the best way to vote for more like this ❤ also, would be doing me a big favour if you could subscribe - its free 🙏🏾appreciate you! - SB

544 46 replies
@Patu33 2025-12-15

To expect that a boss simply recognizes you are "awesome" and "naturally" gives you a raise, is the most naïve thing to hear about the corporate jungle.

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@brendoncummins2762 2025-12-16

In no circumstances have i ever seen or heard of an employer 'seeing' the hard work and just 'giving' out of the kindness of their heart. 90% of the time, hard work and skill gets one more work...

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@TiexinGuo 2025-12-15

TL,DR: - Prepare topics briefly before conversations to reduce anxiety and improve flow. - Ask more questions, especially follow-ups, to show interest and deepen connection. - Use validation and receptiveness to handle disagreements constructively. - Incorporate levity and warmth to keep conversations engaging and enjoyable. - Be mindful of kindness by using respectful language and managing your energy. - Practice reframing nervousness as excitement to improve performance in high-pressure talks. - Develop self-awareness of how you come across and adjust accordingly. - Leverage conversation for building trust over time rather than expecting instant persuasion. - Navigate the digital age by maintaining authenticity and prioritizing real human connection.

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@lorna4751 2025-12-16

RE: ending convos. I've learned to say, "I've enjoyed this conversation" or "It was nice to see you" and it has helped prevent overstaying in a convo & reduce the awkwardness of ending it.

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@bennettcreative 2025-12-15

When in doubt, default to curiosity! Never fails.

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@Catz5 2025-12-16

I don’t like it when ppl think they know who you are just by looking at you!

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@artzk1 2026-02-22

Being misunderstood is what trips me up. Also, being interrupted.

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