The Blueprint for Better Relationships & a Peaceful Life - Dr John Delony

"That's not how I would have emptied the dishwasher, but he's a good man" - I love this, I think it's important to pick your battles.

I think Chris is 100% on the right track when he says committed guys should stay away from clubs. Should not have to apologise for saying the right thing.

The only thing I'd "argue" to keep private is my journal. Not the conclusions I may reach, but the processing itself may not be the most helpful all the time for the other person to read, because not every thought is the kindest. And I'd rather vent and process, reflect, correct, and then bring something to my partner. Other than that, I'm more than willing to share passwords and texts and searches and all the rest.

I've been listening for years now and still just love this podcast! So often, things are said out loud here that have been trapped in my mind. And to hear them spoken gives a sense of permission to verablize them myself.

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My lady and I have had full access to each others phones since we met. She is my best friend and I am hers. Funny enough, with full access, neither of us is regularly checking each others phones. But if I need to use hers or her mine, no issues and no fear.

I just told my girlfriend soon to be fiancée that she can have all of my passwords and monitor my phone to even put more boundaries to protect our relationship and in só the challenge was that when we have kids she can already be in practice, to monitor our kids, but we don’t believe in giving smart phones until they can afford to buy one. I have nothing to hide nor is it about hiding anything. I’ve never wanted to build a more fortified relationship with someone and not do what everyone else’s does. People are quick to call out trust but lack the accountability. Personally I don’t even want the temptation or the thought só why not make it harder and build more resilience and self control prior and in my relationship.

Ughhh… I LOVE JOHN… such a good man!

This is good stuff but something they don’t discuss (or at least not in depth) is the emotional maturity, intelligence and confidence that comes with being able to afford this level of safety in a relationship. Emotional maturity being able to understand your partners boundaries or feelings separate from yourself. Emotional intelligence, being able to identify your own emotions and boundaries, and being able to clearly state them, free from misdirected blame. And emotional confidence, being able to do all of the above with courage and free from self imposed shame.

44:11 regardless of the low bar, even the ‘good guys’ are being discarded. I’m 6’ conventionally handsome, loyal, honest, present, intellectually and emotionally intelligent, decent job, passionate, good lover, gym 6x/wk, yoga, good to my friends and neighbors, accountable, etc… just got ditched at 3.5yrs in because partner was avoidant and couldn’t lean in to the relationship. I think attachment styles have to be explored in any discussion about intimate relationships.