r/AITA for Making My Brother Homeless?

When you're too busy being the loudest voice in the marriage, it can feel like being blindsided when your partner just silently leaves without warning.

Story 2: NTA. Is that even a question? Your wife and her family treated you like garbage for TWENTY YEARS, and your wife literally doesn't give two sh*ts about you, and you just simply had enough and just left. And you DID confide in her about your grievances but they simply just brushed you off, they CANNOT say you "didn't communicate with them".

also for story 2, everyone that has covered the story had ignored the god damn RACISM of refusing to see OPs family or eat his cultural foods. today I'm disappointed because its be like if rslash ignored his wife's wants and needs and refused to eat her cultural foods and see her family

Story 2: What else was he supposed to think R/slash? The wife had basically fully removed the kids from basically being a part of OP's life, not allowing them to be part of his culture and meeting his family just because of her whims and such, can you honestly say you'd blame him for not having "Super supportive language" or stuff when he was never able to connect with his kids? If it was the other way around, and a dad had fully made the kids not be at all involved with the Mom's family, culture and so on for YEARS, with regular arguments over 14 YEARS, would you still say this about the language being not as personal?

Dabney should really read the story sometimes and when I say read I mean it cause he somehow missed everything in the second story of OP being ostracised from his own family cause of the wife with racism underlines of not letting the kids try his *cultural food*

While I do think there is more to the story, I have a feeling that more is the wife systematically breaking the husband. If you get isolated from your family, all ideas are ignored, and other mentally abusive stuff, you kind of just shut down. I have seen it before.

I can tell Rslash has never had his privacy forcefully taken from him. When I lived with my parents I wasn't allowed to have a lock for my bedroom for the longest time and my dad would just barge in without knocking regardless if I was half way dressed. So no, it's not a small thing, the only reason you would see it as a small thing is if you've never had to deal with not having privacy at all.

Uhhh Rslash. Second story he kind of spells it out. The kids put zero effort or energy into learning anything about their dad and their mother enforced that by not allowing OP to really introduce them into who he is as a person rather than a provider. He wasn't allowed to parent, he wasn't able to build the bonds he wanted to create, and the end result? A father who feels virtually no connection to his kids. It's not that hard to believe honestly.

When someone says "you made me feel like a child". The answer is " then don't act like one"

Around 8:50 Dabney says that the worst example op could come up with was not being able to lock the bedroom door.... What about not being able to see his family? What about having his cultural food be ignored and devalued? That second thing is actually such a huge red flag and you'd think someone like Dabney would know better