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World Expert on Love: Your Brain Already Picked Your Partner (But They’re Lying About Monogamy)

2025-07-03 People & Blogs
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World Renowned Fatherhood Expert Dr Anna Machin reveals the #1 lie about monogamy, how cheating hijacks human brains, and the evolutionary truth behind love, trust, and fatherhood! Dr Anna Machin is an evolutionary anthropologist and relationship scientist known for her groundbreaking research on human connection, love, fatherhood, and attachment. She is also the author of Why We Love: The New Science Behind Our Closest Relationships. What you’ll learn: ◽️ How cheating hijacks the brain like an addictive drug ◽️ The evolutionary lie about monogamy & true love ◽️ Why modern fatherhood is more important than ever ◽️ The real reason we fall for the wrong person ◽️ How oxytocin, dopamine & DNA shape who we love and trust — ⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:15 Why Love Is the Core of Being Human 07:13 The Forgotten Role of Fathers 09:10 Individualism and the Current State of Love 14:44 Women Find Their Right Partner by Smelling Them 20:22 Testosterone Is Linked to Success in Men 21:51 How to Increase Your Attractiveness (Backed by Science) 26:23 Never Say This on a Date 27:36 Are “Icks” Red Flags We Should Listen To? 29:58 We’ve Got Too Many Dating Options 33:45 Monogamy and Polyamory 40:07 Why People in Polyamorous Relationships Hide It 41:49 Are We All Pretending to Be Monogamous? 43:09 Why the First 1000 Days Are Critical for a Baby 48:54 Rough and Tumble: The Parenting Technique Every Parent Should Teach 51:50 How Your Brain and Body Change When Becoming a Dad 54:25 Why Some Dads Don’t Instantly Bond With Their Kids 58:22 Mental Health Issues From Lacking a Father Figure Early On 1:02:00 Implications of an Absent Mother 1:11:08 Biological Fathers vs. Father Figures 1:12:42 Father Figures in Lesbian Couples 1:14:48 Are Parents Needed in the First Two Years? 1:21:11 The Optimal Scenario to Raise a Child 1:26:03 How Dads Can Bond With Their Newborns 1:29:46 Love Drugs 1:38:35 Understanding Attachment Styles 1:42:58 Is Modern Society Pushing Us Toward a Specific Attachment Style? 1:44:20 Doomscrolling on Dating Apps? This Is Your Attachment Style 1:47:27 How to Change Your Attachment Style 1:51:26 How ADHD May Impact Your Love Life 1:57:32 Do People With ADHD Cheat More Often? 2:01:43 How to Contain Your Impulses 2:03:02 Sex Life and Neurodivergence 2:03:48 Relationships as the Biggest Factor in Health and Longevity 2:10:04 What Happens to the Brain When It's in Love 2:14:07 When Did You Feel Like You’d Made It? The Diary Of A CEO: ◽️ Join DOAC circle here - https://doaccircle.com/ ◽️ Buy The Diary Of A CEO book here - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook ◽️ The 1% Diary is back - limited time only: https://bit.ly/3YFbJbt ◽️ The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards (Second Edition): https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb ◽️ Get email updates - https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt ◽️ Follow Steven - https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Dr Anna: ◽️ Instagram – https://bit.ly/45ElU4p ◽️ Website – https://bit.ly/3GcTT9S ◽️ You can purchase Dr Anna’s book, ‘Why We Love: The New Science Behind Our Closest Relationships’, here: https://bit.ly/3GjfOfo ◽️You can purchase Dr Anna’s book ‘The Life of Dad: The Making of a Modern Father’, here: ⁠https://bit.ly/4lbtE2A⁠ — Sponsors: KetoneIQ - Visit https://ketone.com/STEVEN for 30% off your subscription order Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett

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@Drruuiipp 2025-07-03

Dr. Machin's arguments about polyamory being "natural" deserve serious scrutiny. Her academic credentials are solid, but her recent work shows concerning drift from rigorous research to ideological advocacy. She's leveraging her Oxford background to promote cultural positions that exceed what the science actually supports. Her book "Why We Love" received criticism for cherry-picking evidence and predetermined conclusions. The fact that she's personally married with kids while publicly advocating polyamory as more "natural" than monogamy raises questions about her motivations. Plus she's profiting from controversial takes through book sales and media appearances. Just because something is "evolutionary" doesn't make it morally superior. We evolved violent tendencies too, but that doesn't mean we should embrace them. Her arguments are surface-level evolutionary psychology being used to undermine traditional relationship structures. Trust your instincts when academic "experts" start sounding more like activists than scientists.

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@alc8463 2025-07-03

Im in a monogamous marriage. We love the security that brings. Our kids love it and us for it. The kids feel a security that is unmatched

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@ctankus 2025-07-03

Not resorting to violence when angered is a social construct. Just because it’s in our nature doesn’t bean we should follow it. That’s what separates humans from animals.

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@c1ro78 2025-07-05

Seeing my parents love each other is a beautiful feeling.

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@clark4suE 2025-07-04

It sure feels like monogamy is more natural when the thought of being cheated on seems so painful.

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@HeavenStudiosOfficial 2025-07-06

Yes, cheating, violence, selfishness, dominance... those are all "natural." So are fear, jealousy, and eating raw meat off a carcass. But what separates humans from animals isn't our instincts, it's our ability to override them with values, logic, empathy, and restraint. Civilization is the conscious rejection of our base instincts. Sacrificing your ego for the sake of that one person, truly worth it, what do you call that if not love?

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@heatherMarryann 2025-07-03

I married my very first boyfriend, whom I met on a blind date almost 30 years ago. Together, we have three beautiful children, and I have no desire for a non-monogamous relationship. We are both very happy and content, often feeling annoyed when we don't have enough alone time. We enjoy diving into hobbies together, traveling together, and parenting together. I wouldn’t want to share that part of my life with anyone else.

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@HeleneChan-Lundin 2025-08-16

I grew up without a father figure. That made me more vulnerable to falling into a manipulative and destructive relationship, insecure attachment, feeling lost, depression and poor self confidence. However, that has somehow also helped me develop independence, curiosity, positivity, problem solving, humor, discernment, intelligence, integrity, and resilience

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