13 Semi-Controversial Truths About Men & Women - Adam Lane Smith

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Mature female viewer here. I’ve learned so much about men from watching Chris and Rogan! The information has made me both a better wife and mother.

There was a line in the movie Fight Club where Brad Pitt says "we're a generation of men raised by women. I'm not convinced it's a woman we need."

Came in a little skeptical about the tone, 15min in a lot of my past and present choices and shifts in priorities have all made a lot more sense. Thanks for helping me understand myself better

As a mom of two young boys I love listening to this stuff so I can see where men are headed with the struggles they currently face and hopefully steer them towards better decisions.

Let me share the true story about how the aspect of my personality that I have been pulled into my boss's office and "coached" for being "too aggressive" at work, turned into two separate instances of protecting that same boss from extremely dangerous people at work where I was THANKED for my intervention. Quick bit of backstory for context. I work at a level one trauma center in the Operating Room, a job where the stakes of a bad day are "people fucking DIE." I've been doing it for 12 years and am one of the senior members of my crew now and have a vast amount of experience, for better and worse. Formerly, I worked security at a hospital for many years and have a little bit of law enforcement experience, but it wasn't my cup of tea. Needless to say, the majority of my adult working life I have dealt with conflict resolution and crisis intervention. And I'm VERY good at it. So over some amount of time I've been addressed by a few different managers, including my current one, for both my attitude and coming across as "aggressive and intimidating" when I'm clearly bothered. Again, in a role where the stakes are life or death on a daily basis. Apparently I'm required to be an emotionless robot in the face of the shit we deal with. 😂 an idea so absurd that I made sure they understood that's what they were trying to demand of me. Fast forward to the past year, and during a team training meeting before work starts on an in-service morning, a man nobody recognizes walks into the conference room like he belongs there and just pulls up a chair at the table. Now this conference room IS also a work room for resident doctors, so some assumptions are made that he may just be some new baby doc in training but the manager asks him "excuse me, who are you?" To which he replies "is this where the meetings happen about how you all kill everyone?" I'm on my feet and in his face before anyone else can even bring their eyebrows back to cruising altitude "GET THE FUCK UP! YOU'RE LEAVING." Dude was too weird, and ALL my alarm bells were going off in my head. And my first instinct was to close the distance on him to control his hands in case shit got weird. And it happened automatically. He continued to say crazy shit as I moved him to the door and sent him out, then contacted security to make sure he was escorted off the property because he was trying locked doors the entire way down the hallway as he went. My entire team was blown away AND thankful for how quickly and assertively I jumped into action addressing this tweaker. The lead and manager who had previously scolded me for my "aggressive" attitude actually gave me a gift card as thanks for my quick action to keep the team safe. An irony that I hope wasn't lost on them. 😂 Within about 2 months, a similar incident happened where an irate visitor had managed to wander into the employee only side of the OR work area and my manager contacted the man, who was a good bit larger than her, and attempt to verbally de-escalate him and escort him back out to the public side. I was informed by my lead that it had JUST happened and using some quick judgement guessed where she would have led him and moved to back her up, which was good because just on the public side of the doors, the man was growing more erratic and his behavior was turning more aggressive and upon my arrival, and a quick assessment of his mental status, I played a risky hand and "out-aggressed" him, yelling at him in my command voice and essentially shocking him out of his heightened emotional state, then ordered him into the elevator which he complied with and escorted him right out the front of the hospital, to the amusement of the Security people at that entrance who were just dispatching people to come deal with him. That last tactic isn't one that i recommend, because often meeting aggression with aggression just becomes a power struggle and escalates a bad situation into a worse one. But over time I've gotten good at a sort of quick assessment of when I can jar someone out of their aggression with a sharp LOUD authoritative yell. ....a tactic that also works great for parenting when dialed down to "Dad voice" 😂 And again, everyone in my chain of leadership appreciated when I flipped the switch to "German shepherd" mode and dealt with a threatening person on the job. My point is, modern society does NOT understand its active double standard of both FEARING and RELYING on aggression. What makes the difference is whether it is applied with self control. The old adage being "a man who cannot utilize violence it not a 'gentleman' , he is a harmless man. But a man capable of violence who keeps it in check until it is necessary is a 'gentleman'." And I would assert that if you lack the capability to enforce your own sovereignty through violence at any given moment, you are never truly safe or free because all of your freedom and safety exist as the mere whims of more violent people around you. Train to be dangerous. Then train to be gentle. And use wisdom to know which to use in the right circumstances. 👍🏻

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