Divorce Lawyer Reveals Harsh Truths About Love & Marriage - James Sexton

I have to say, Chris, it's a small thing, but I really appreciate how we get straight into the action with your podcast. No intros, jokes, interacting with the audience's stupid questions, or bits to ease the guest. Cut all that and go straight to the show. Love it.

He's literally said every single thing I've heard him say in every single interview before. But I still enjoyed it.

Had a mediator who since my ex and I had nearly the same income decided it would be a good idea for me to pay 51 percent of my daughters college education and my wife 49 percent. (Paying for the child’s college education was not required by law). The real kicker is that the mediator thought it would be a good idea that she be appointed to oversee the distributions of the funds. It was clear that the mediator was mostly interested in making money from the deal. At that point I contacted an attorney in order to end the mediation. My ex hired a lawyer. In the next mediation session the seating at the table told the story. My ex, her attorney and the mediator sat at one end of the table, me and my attorney at the other. The lawyer and the mediator had been colluding in order to get as much as they could from me. In the end the mediation blew up and we went to trial. What I learned is how much some people like to argue and drag out the proceedings. At $300 per hour it pays to argue. My point is be ware of mediators and attorneys who are in to the process not to find a solution but to fatten their own pocket books.

After 44 years of marriage, my wife is divorcing me. Nothing torrid, or unseemly, she is just an unhappy person and believes I am responsible for her unhappiness. I have a clear consciousness, I've done everything I can to preserve the marriage.. it is out of my control. I hate starting over, but I'll be fine. I'm a happy, optimistic person, and I wish my wife, soon to be ex, well. I think after it's all final, some day she'll realize, I wasn't the source of her unhappiness... My Mother often said, "you take yourself with you wherever you go".

James Sexton, "I wish you well, because when you love someone you wish them well even if it is to your detriment." I never knew a divorce lawyer could say one of the fundamental truths of having a good relationship.

I could listen to James Sexton for hours!! He still seems so positive even after seeing so many terrible things in divorce court. Glad you got to interview him.

7:18. Social media can lead people to believe that there's always someone out there, better than their spouse. It's tempting to think if the marriage isn't going well, you can get divorced and start over.

Hello you savages. Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Why Are So Many Marriages Failing? 06:31 Most Common Reasons for Divorce 13:17 Should Couples Stay Together for the Kids? 21:44 Are Prenups Worth it? 32:13 How People Have a More Difficult Divorce Than Needed 39:35 James’s Most Outrageous Cases 47:21 Protecting a Positive View on Romance 50:55 Defending Someone You Morally Disagree With 56:37 The Problems in American Divorce Law 1:03:03 Dramatised Court Scenarios Vs Reality 1:08:49 James’s Issue with the Manosphere 1:13:17 Where to Find James

I’m a divorce attorney myself and I love that James is able to speak facts both to me and people who aren’t in the business. Really rare to see someone who can bridge the gap between the professionals in the field and the people who aren’t experts.

Most couples don’t know how to communicate with each other. My husband and I went through a rough patch and went to a marriage therapist. This is what he said to us and helped us learn each other’s communication style. We are doing well now.😊