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The Most Eye-Opening Conversation on Marriage & Love You Will Ever Hear (From #1 Divorce Lawyer)

2026-03-05 Education
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Mel Robbins
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Mel calls today’s episode one of the most moving, meaningful, and transformational conversations ever to happen on the podcast. She says it is THE most important relationship advice that she has ever heard and you will ever hear. Today’s guest, James Sexton, is a world-renowned authority on relationships, but coming from a perspective you may not expect. He’s the author of the bestselling book How to Stay in Love. But he’s also one of the top divorce attorneys in the world, which means for decades he's had a front-row seat to what makes marriages thrive – and the reason why marriages fall apart. He’s going to tell you most breakups don’t happen because of something catastrophic. They result from all the little mistakes over time that everyone misses. Today, he’ll teach you what those mistakes are and convince you that a few small changes are the secret to creating a lasting and loving relationship. And unlike most relationship advice you’ll hear, his advice isn’t theoretical. It’s built on what he’s seen thousands of couples do when it’s working… and when it’s not. You’ll learn: -How you can save (or strengthen) any marriage in 10 minutes a week -The #1 thing that leads to infidelity (it’s not what you think) and how to avoid it -How to tell if your marriage is over -The reason relationships and marriages fail -How to argue in a productive way -How to tell if you’re in the wrong relationship -The habits of all successful relationships If you’re single, this is what sets the foundation for a healthy relationship. If you’re in a relationship, this is what allows it to deepen, strengthen, and evolve with you. If you’re suffering from a breakup or a divorce, this will not only make you believe in love again, but it will also give you the road map to create it. This is one of the most important conversations that has been had on this podcast to date. Mel cannot wait for you and everybody that you love or have loved to experience it. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-375/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet The Guest 6:20 The Reason Relationships and Marriages Fail 9:15 What You Need To Know Before Getting Married 14:04 How You Can Save (Or Strengthen) Any Marriage in 10 Minutes a Week 28:22 Why People Cheat (The Real Causes of Infidelity) 32:37 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships and Infidelity 40:17 Reignite Connection in a Long-Term Relationship (Small Fixes That Work) 52:41 Warning Signs You’re Headed for a Breakup or Divorce 56:49 How to Argue in a Productive Way 1:11:15 The #1 Way to Save a Marriage — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Top Comments (10)

@KateBraden-i3p 2026-03-05

After 28 years of marriage, my husband said to me last night, "If we were dating, I would choose you all over again". Heart melt! Luckiest girl here!!

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@KAYRMotivates 2026-03-06

Most relationships don’t collapse from one big moment. They slowly drift apart from small habits repeated over time.

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@jessicaholland3968 2026-03-11

My parents have been married since 1960 - over 60 years ago. They still hold hands, kiss, and talk about their wedding day with tears in their eyes. My dad looks at my mom with so much love. I don’t take it for granted for one moment. What a gift.

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@GraceAnderson7 2026-03-20

This conversation was everything I needed to hear. It confirmed so much of what I've been learning from book Hollow Intimacy, that love isn't just a feeling, it's a practice. That the distance in marriage doesn't happen overnight. That we have to find ourselves before we can truly connect with someone else. If this conversation opened your eyes, read that book.

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@janel1977blessed 2026-03-07

This guy is way more than a lawyer…he is such a gift.

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@lifeaswedoit7539 2026-03-05

I’ve watched James in so many podcasts and yet he still stops me in my tracks. One of the most articulate, attractive, insightful, emotionally intelligent men I’ve come across. Thank you.

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@ellenhartley4998 2026-03-05

I'm in 45 minutes and all I can think is, why isn't he a marriage counselor?

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@cassie38383 2026-03-06

Wow, Mr. Sexton is a very emotionally intelligent man. He knows his stuff. Extremely insightful, one of the best you’ve had on your show.

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@steveportice3560 2026-06-06

This conversation is very enlightening to me now. My first divorce was 19 years ago, and I can remember clearly my mother told me , she is too young to get married, I was too young myself to understand what I was being told. Our marriage ended almost 15 years later in divorce, she said we grew apart. I have to agree completely now, we didn't do things to keep us growing together over the years

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@fabienneboulard1165 2026-06-06

My husband and I disconnected years ago. I found out I had been plowing ahead for a destination I chose on my own (thought we had the same, I was wrong, our kids are great though :) while he was "trying to climb out the back window" from the very start pretty much (thank you online history that logs everything). We still sleep in the same bed (25 years of "marriage" plus another 2 years of purgatory, so 27 years so far, both of us deeply unhappy by now), I think it makes him think we're still "connected" somehow, last year I got a bigger wider bed, best sleep I had in years....

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