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Why Women Say They Want One Thing But Date Another - Rob Henderson

2025-04-17 People & Blogs
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Rob Henderson holds a PhD in psychology from the University of Cambridge and is a Senior Fellow at the Manhattan Institute. Who holds the power in modern dating? With growing gender divides and political polarization, it’s no wonder dating feels harder than ever. So, how did we get here, and what’s the way forward? Expect to learn why political division between the sexes has grown so wide, if this is a reaction to the growing sex ratio imbalance of socioeconomically successful women compared to men, why so many men are dealing with ED and if men are to blame for women not being able to orgasm, the traits that predicts relationship satisfaction, what psychology teach us about how to choose a good partner and much more… 00:00 Has Political Division Become A Sexual Fetish? 03:44 Is There A Hypocrisy Issue In Attracting Women? 08:02 Do Men Portray Themselves In A Certain Way To Gain Attention? 13:41 Is Women Earning More Than Men Affecting Relationships? 22:59 Are Men At Fault For Not Sexually Performing? 29:22 The Subsequent Fall Out From Netflix's Adolescence 38:28 Did Adolescence Accurately Get The Message Right? 52:26 How Psychology Can Help Us Choose The Right Partner 1:08:04 Indicators Of Potential Mistreatment In A Relationship 1:18:54 Why Clarity And Inquisitiveness Can Be Key To A Healthy Relationship 1:29:58 Where To Find Rob - Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get a 20% discount & free shipping on Manscaped's shavers at https://manscaped.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM20) Get a 20% discount on Nomatic's amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Top Comments (10)

@yinsound 2025-04-17

Have you ever been on a dating site? In no case have I ever seen a liberal woman who was not screaming about how she refuses to date a Trump voter. In fact, just 2 weeks ago a woman I met at a gathering was interested in me until she found out I was not a Democrat. Conversely, I will not consider any woman dumb enough to say the word 'patriarchy'. If anything, the trend is continuing more toward polarization.

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@designatedduff75 2025-04-17

woman - it's not fair when a man makes more money then me also women - I want a man that makes more money then me

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@Cee_Eff 2025-04-17

I went to Trade School/Technical College. Wasn't surrounded by women and all we got was the "Nerdy Engineer " or "Grease Monkey who works in a factory..." attitude/rejections when we tried to socialize outside of the campus. Same with after graduation. No one wanted to date us except for a foodie call. But everyone wanted to be our friends when they needed something built/fixed/repaired

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@DanielS2376 2025-04-17

Judging from the title alone, this episode could keep going indefinitely.

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@christinemarie6976 2025-04-17

I was always told that banning polygamy was for the sake of women. But it seems that the women naturally gravitate toward that end anyway. It was actually for men that polygamy was outlawed. All the women being monopolized by relatively few men, leaves a lot of leftover men with no spouse. Useful only for manual labor and being sent off to war.

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@Darren_71 2025-04-20

I No longer care what women want, Haven't done for 17 years, I heard this saying 40+ years ago. ""If you give a woman what they want, It's not what she needs. If you give a woman what she needs, It's not what she wants!"" It has, and always will be true about women.

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@SpencerCornelia 2025-04-17

that lamp analogy at the end was crazy spot-on. feels so relevant to me as i'm guilty of approaching dating from the standpoint of having the perfect house built and looking for a specific lamp to fill in.

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@brianshea4177 2025-04-17

My two bits after almost 2 decades of marriage. I see all kinds of friends who end up in in serious conflicts\divorced because they never asked serious questions about their long term plans about their family life together. When people come from a shared religious and or ethnic background, they share some of the same operating system. Another point missed is to look seriously into the kind of family your potential spouse comes from. Character is Fate, as Hericlitus says. So is community.

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@Luke08Sadler 2025-04-17

"Stephen Graham is as white as they come" made me laugh considering he's 1/4 Jamaican 😂

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@ChrisWillx 2025-04-11

Hello you beauties. Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Has Political Division Become A Sexual Fetish? 03:44 Is There A Hypocrisy Issue In Attracting Women? 08:02 Do Men Portray Themselves In A Certain Way To Gain Attention? 13:41 Is Women Earning More Than Men Affecting Relationships? 22:59 Are Men At Fault For Not Sexually Performing? 29:22 The Subsequent Fall Out From Netflix's Adolescence 38:28 Did Adolescence Accurately Get The Message Right? 52:26 How Psychology Can Help Us Choose The Right Partner 1:08:04 Indicators Of Potential Mistreatment In A Relationship 1:18:54 Why Clarity And Inquisitiveness Can Be Key To A Healthy Relationship 1:29:58 Where To Find Rob

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