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The #1 Mistake That Makes You Sound Insecure - Matt Abrahams

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Matt Abrahams is a communication expert, Stanford lecturer, and podcaster. Ever been put on the spot to give a quick speech, only to freeze up with nothing to say? Speaking with confidence and clarity is a skill, and the good news is, it can be learned. Today Matt Abrahams shares practical tips and tools to help you think faster, speak smarter, and become a more effective communicator. Expect to learn how to speak more confidently, why people choke when they are put on the spot and how to overcome anxiety while speaking, how having structure can actually liberate spontaneous speaking, how to avoid rambling and get to the point faster, he biggest errors people make during conversations, how to give a compelling toast with zero prep, the key ingredients of a meaningful apology, and much more… - 00:00 Why Do People Have Speaking Anxiety? 04:36 Advice for Managing Anxiety 07:44 Why People Choke on the Spot 10:17 Can You Over-Prepare? 14:43 How to Avoid Rambling 19:25 Thinking Fast on Your Feet 23:40 No Such Thing as a Stupid Question 28:21 Questions to Build Connection 35:40 Surprising Stats About Communication 40:05 Getting Rid of Filler Words 48:25 Importance of Confidence in Communication 52:13 Warming Up Your Voice 54:01 How to Make Meaningful Small Talk 55:59 The Keys to a Strong Apology 57:36 Where to Find Matt - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Top Comments (10)

@Un_Condition_All 2025-05-31

“The desire to say it right leads to choking, because you’ve exhausted your cognitive bandwidth.” Rawest Reality.

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@Changed4Ever2 2025-05-31

I love how you mentioned that it's not your job to understand the point of a person, but that person's job. I get a lot of anxiety when I ask questions when someone may not be clear in fear they may get frustrated by my questions.

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@ChrisWillx 2025-05-31

Hello you beauties. Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Why Do People Have Speaking Anxiety? 04:36 Advice for Managing Anxiety 07:44 Why People Choke on the Spot 10:17 Can You Over-Prepare? 14:43 How to Avoid Rambling 19:25 Thinking Fast on Your Feet 23:40 No Such Thing as a Stupid Question 28:21 Questions to Build Connection 35:40 Surprising Stats About Communication 40:05 Getting Rid of Filler Words 48:25 Importance of Confidence in Communication 52:13 Warming Up Your Voice 54:01 How to Make Meaningful Small Talk 55:59 The Keys to a Strong Apology 57:36 Where to Find Matt

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@avaceleste 2025-06-01

Glanced and thought he was Steve Martin.

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@LiannJara 2025-05-31

I'm so glad hearing Matt Abrahams on Modern Wisdom!

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@elliek5350 2025-05-31

34:45 thank you for this verbal, non-verbal, and visceral reaction to this! 💯 With you

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@westcoastkidd17 2025-06-03

Matt is awesome and also has a great podcast you should follow if the ability to communicate is critical to your profession.

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@debguerrieri 2025-11-29

“Tell the time, don’t build the clock” Love this!

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@loganruming1080 2025-07-09

Everyone needs to know how to communicate properly, this man provides an easy understanding on how to do this! Legend!

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@MiranUT 2025-06-16

Chris! You suddenly look 10 year younger!!! But handsome as ever! Very happy to hear Matt Abrahams!!!Thanks!

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