Life update. I'm still grieving.

I don't come here just to "better my health." I come here because you're a woman of faith, and without that, life is hopeless. Thank you for being vulnerable, Dr. Boz. Many prayers as you work through this tough season.

Dr.Boz, you are normal in how you are feeling. But you know what? You show up every Tuesday. We appreciate you.

Dr.Boz, thank for your courage to tell your story, You are such a beautiful soul, I admire what you have accomplished and I will be forever grateful for you vulnerability to share your story. I am a 64 year old woman 12 years into menopause and felt like I was sailing through it quite easily. In March of 2022 my husband and I bought a house on the gulf coast, He retired from his position of 35 years and I sold my businesses-(they were everything to me,) and we moved from a fruitful life in Southern California for a new adventure enjoying the boating and diving in Florida's gulf waters. 6 months later our lives were completely devastated from Hurricane Ian Sept 2022. We lost everything!! The roof gave way while we were still in the house more worried about rising water than roof, but 10 hours later with 150 mile and hour winds I live to tell about it. That was the easy part. They tell me I am lucky to be alive; but I don't feel that way. Long story short, 2.5 years later my house was still not finished due to FEMA red tape then unscrupulous contractors and Lawyers who took my money ($250K)and did not do the work. The state of Florida licenses these people but will not do anything to stop the theft. The contractors that cleaned out my house stole my most precious belongings that I forgot were in my house buried under debris that had fallen. I decided to sell my house as is and took a loss of almost $500K, my husband was offered his job back to come out of retirement. We moved back to California. With everything now behind me I cannot let go of the thoughts of what happened and the loss of everything that was the totality of my past and my future. I am lost, I am depressed, I do not get the sleep I need, my cognitive function is diminished, I'm not on HRT, something that wasn't available in my Peri/post menopause years (not sure if it is too late for that) but I want to thank you for everything you have put out over the last couple of years I have been following you. By doing so you have opened my eyes to things I had totally forgot about and I am now, finally working in a positive manner to put my life back together armed with the information you have shared. The struggle is real but nobody but those who relate to your story can understand it's just the way it is but I will be forever grateful for your presence im my life. ❣

As a former chaplain and having walked with others thru their season of grief, your humility, honesty and transparency will serve to elevate you out of your 'valley' experience to new heights of achievement and personal growth. Keep strong and live On!

Dr. Boz, I am 73 and have and have over 35 years of sobriety, and I am still grieving. The grieving process takes as long as it takes. Be gentle with yourself and easy on the expectations. Do your best, one day at a time. 🙏

I'm 73, and I'm a 50 year healthcare professional and YOU are experiencing a normal response to all these stressors. This is difficult and nobody has permission to judge what you are going through. Love yourself and give yourself permission to feel the pain. ❤

In 3 years my husband had a stroke and is severely disabled. My dad got skin cancer and I cared for him until death all the while my mother had dementia, fell and broke her hip and I cared for her until death. I am beyond exhausted, disregulated and lost. I cry all the time. So I can empathise with anyone who is going through a lot of sickness and death. We are never prepared.

At menopause, no matter what I did I could not get back my "joie de vivre". The way my brain was wired changed immeasurably. I went to an "alternative" medicine clinic in Fla. and I was helped with Armour Thyroid and Bio-identical hormones plus a low carb diet. I'm smart and felt that I would find the answers no matter what and feel better! But the truth is this is a time of life where everything changes and it never goes back to the younger version. It's a series of adjustments all the way through into older age. We are really growing into ourselves and new insights and treasures. I am 76 now, an empty nester, a widow, after 50 wonderful years of marriage. From a house of 8, I am now a house of one. I have a different version of my joie de vivre and it is pretty wonderful. There are reasons and seasons for it all. You will feel better. It's all normal. Give yourself grace. I'm going to find the book. Thank you, Annette.

Girl, I was there 2 years ago. I have 3 sons and the last one is getting married in July. Rest, quiet time walking or working in the yard, and HRT has helped so much. When you're kids leave home and you lose your home and your menopause hits, there's a grieving process. Those who say you have no right to grieve are wrong. I pray for your peace and am glad you have such a loving family.

You have been through Trauma true trauma. Just like the book says, “The body keeps the score”. Give yourself grace. I think you are amazing. Thanks for being vulnerable. ❤❤❤