Is Arguing With Your Spouse Actually A Good Thing?

Arguments are a form of passion. I don’t want a yes man for a husband and he doesn’t want a door mat for a wife.

Cloony is NOT someone to emulate.

Been married 43 years, together 46 years. I tell all the young people, you will not spend the rest of your life together and never argue. And when you’re young and stupid you might sometimes fight. If you think that never happens in a happy marriage then you will never get married or stay married.

It’s unnatural for any two people who spend a lot of time together to not argue.

Arguments are healthy. Discussions are healthy. Fights are not.

My husband and I see eye to eye on pretty much everything but there have still been a few disagreements. We never lash out, we never scream, we never call each other names. We've both learned so much about ourselves, each other, honest and healthy communication, etc. Those moments are where you grow most together, IMO.

The problem is coming up in the definitions. To many people, what you described here as an argument is what they'd call a disagreement, and what you describe as a fight is to their definition, an argument. And then fighting… Well fighting is screaming, throwing things and hands. So before contradicting that they've never had an argument, you have to define terms with the couple.

To never argue means one of you is basically a doormat. In this situation I'd guess it's probably Travis.

They have this opinion because they aren’t actually married. If your apart 90% of the time you aren’t actually married.

“My mother used to say couples who say they never argue are not communicating!” And “ if you agree about everything then one of you ain’t necessary”