r/Offmychest A Threesome Ruined My Life

One of the things I may have missed but I didn't notice was no one mentioning the 5 year old not being worried at all about his dad leaving. Meaning it's a normal occurrence.

Story 1: The fact that she just barely mentioned him placing hands on her WITH EVIDENCE is extremely alarming.

I have a thought about story 3. So, I don't think her husband isn't attracted to her or anything like that. He tried to get her more involved during the threesome, and she mentions having to turn down intimacy that he initiated, and partners who aren't attracted don't try to initiate. She says that the times she tried doing it with other people while the marriage was open were also not anything special. I think the actual problem is OP, but not intentionally. I've been in relationships with people who felt awkward with sex, either because they lacked experience or confidence, and that makes the entire encounter feel awkward. It's hard to please someone who doesn't know what they want and won't give you proper feedback. OP mentions several times that she feels ugly and unlovable, and that has me thinking that the real issue here is some deep insecurity that OP needs to address. Couples counseling is needed, obv, and maybe a sex counselor, but also I think OP needs individual counseling to dig up why she feels the way she does. I mean, it can even be from something like hormone imbalance! I had issues with sex not feeling "right" for a long time and it was due to undiagnosed illness.

I’m just picturing OP’s aunt rolling up to that gas station with the DOOM music blaring. You don’t fuck with a butch on the warpath.

Whether he was cheating or not is irrelevant. He still left a 5yo and a 9mo unattended long enough to justify divorce and full custody.

The way the neighbor in the first story said "lmk if you need more footage" makes me think the wife is right, this definitely isn't the first time the husband had that woman there and its probably why the 5yo was so calm about being in the house all the time. Dad must be leaving them alone often to go slightly off the property and get some cheeks.

Story 1: Honestly? If he just constantly denying everything, saying you're overreacting, and only admitting the bare minimum? It's over, really.

Story 2: Good on OP to save that drunk girl. It doesn't matter if people getting drunk happens a lot, drunk people are vulnerable as heck

Last Story: Why was therapy not a consideration before swinging?

Is anybody else concerned that in the first story she just casually glanced over the fact that HE PUT HIS HANDS ON HER OVER THIS It’s implying that it’s not a new situation and has happened before.