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How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence & Never Get Angry or Bothered by Anyone

2026-07-16 Education
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Mel Robbins
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Are you going to keep being controlled by your emotions for the rest of your life?  The answer is no. Because today, Dr. Marc Brackett, PhD, the world’s leading expert on emotional intelligence, is here to tell you, “Success in virtually every aspect of life – career, friendship, love, and family – is determined mainly by one thing: how we deal with emotions.” Because your emotions are running your life – and you don’t even realize it. Dr. Brackett is the Founder & Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, whose research proves that your life is being shaped by the one skill that 90% of people were never taught: emotional intelligence. Today, Dr. Brackett will give you his research-backed framework to master your emotions, redirect your energy for more positive thinking, and become more emotionally intelligent in 5 simple steps. In this episode you’ll learn: -How your emotions are hijacking your decisions, relationships, and goals -How to recognize what you’re feeling before it takes over -Why you suppress your emotions and what you should be doing instead -How to stop taking everything so personally -How emotional intelligence improves your relationships and your health -How to stop negative thoughts from taking over your life -How to get less angry and bothered by the people around you Dr. Brackett’s research is clear: You can learn emotional intelligence at any age. It’s never too late. After today you will know how to deal with what you feel and you will finally change your behavior, your relationships, and your entire life. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-415/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Introduction 02:54 What Is Emotional Intelligence? How Emotions Control Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Behavior 04:27 How to Take Your Power Back - Learn to Control Your Emotions 07:23 5 Signs of an Emotionally Safe and Supportive Person 11:30 How to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence and Understand Your Feelings 21:55 The Science-Backed Way to Calm Your Nervous System 28:00 How to Stop Overreacting, Control Your Emotions, and Respond Calmly 43:39 How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Manage Emotional Triggers 52:32 The Best Science-Backed Emotional Regulation Techniques That Work 01:00:57 How Emotional Intelligence Improves Your Mental Health, Relationships, and Life — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Top Comments (10)

@noemie5935-n7z 2026-07-18

The way Mel listens, how she listens ❤ it’s so rare, it’s beautiful to watch

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@chrisihouck8393 2026-07-17

Wouldn’t it be nice if our schools taught this for at least one semester in every grade.. through college?!

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@elliekuenzi146 2026-07-18

“There is nothing to fix. Only learning” 👌🏼

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@phaedrafrancis7480 2026-07-16

Please have him on again! So many podcasts about muscle strength and increasing longevity, and while important, so are our muscles and strength on the inside. Thanks to you both.

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@TobieJohnson-x7l 2026-07-16

I work in a tax office as a receptionist. It’s WAY more difficult than what the average person thinks. You are constantly meeting different people, with different perspectives, experiences, social economic status etc, etc. the best thing I can do is literally meet a person where they are at, and not take ANYTHING personally. It can be exhausting.

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@Haven4YU 2026-07-17

Dr Ramani had mentioned that she would rather raise children (and did) with emotional intelligence than book smart. That came to mind as I was listening to Dr Marc. Thanks, Mel! Thanks Dr Marc. I'll listen to this again, I'm sure!

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@amberstrong3757 2026-07-16

Three pages of notes....❤❤❤ this needs to be taught in high school and junior high, heck this needs to be taught to new parents! Thanks again Mel. Your podcast makes me a better me🥰🥰

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@samburbon 2026-07-16

1. Emotional intelligence is a learnable skill set crucial for success, health, and meaningful relationships. 2. Use the RULER framework (Recognize, Understand, Label, Express, Regulate) to manage emotions rather than being controlled by them. 3. Suppressing emotions creates an internal debt that eventually manifests in poor mental and physical health. 4. Being an emotion ally for others requires presence, warmth, and non-judgmental listening instead of trying to fix their problems. 5. Recognize that emotions are data; anxiety often signals uncertainty about things you care about, while anger points to perceived injustice. 6. Use the picture frame technique to observe difficult situations or people as a movie, creating distance instead of absorbing their energy. 7. You always have the power to choose your response, allowing you to move forward instead of staying stuck in past patterns.

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@fugaryx..2505 2026-07-19

When I get the age of Dr. Brackett... I clearly know I'm gonna act, manage and demonstrate my feelings as his uncle learnt him... I know for sure ! Mel, I cannot have precise words to thank you ..... Just God continues blessing you and guides you❤❤❤👌🏻🧠🙏🏼💚

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@jiaqilu9983 2026-07-18

Please have him again! Thank you both for sharing all of your stories and how you were feeling. These examples made it so relatable, and the tools are so practical to my day-to-day life. We have so many videos telling people how to be successful and be more productive. But dealing with emotions and leveraging these tools to regulate them would be the foundational work and more important than other tools. Thank you! this is very helpful for me to find my inner peace

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