r/Offmychest A Threesome Ruined My Life

One of the things I may have missed but I didn't notice was no one mentioning the 5 year old not being worried at all about his dad leaving. Meaning it's a normal occurrence.

Story 1: The fact that she just barely mentioned him placing hands on her WITH EVIDENCE is extremely alarming.

I have a thought about story 3. So, I don't think her husband isn't attracted to her or anything like that. He tried to get her more involved during the threesome, and she mentions having to turn down intimacy that he initiated, and partners who aren't attracted don't try to initiate. She says that the times she tried doing it with other people while the marriage was open were also not anything special. I think the actual problem is OP, but not intentionally. I've been in relationships with people who felt awkward with sex, either because they lacked experience or confidence, and that makes the entire encounter feel awkward. It's hard to please someone who doesn't know what they want and won't give you proper feedback. OP mentions several times that she feels ugly and unlovable, and that has me thinking that the real issue here is some deep insecurity that OP needs to address. Couples counseling is needed, obv, and maybe a sex counselor, but also I think OP needs individual counseling to dig up why she feels the way she does. I mean, it can even be from something like hormone imbalance! I had issues with sex not feeling "right" for a long time and it was due to undiagnosed illness.

I’m just picturing OP’s aunt rolling up to that gas station with the DOOM music blaring. You don’t fuck with a butch on the warpath.

Final story: OP and her husband need to find a sex therapist. They're real and can help work through a lot of insecurities and doubts she's having

Whether he was cheating or not is irrelevant. He still left a 5yo and a 9mo unattended long enough to justify divorce and full custody.

The way the neighbor in the first story said "lmk if you need more footage" makes me think the wife is right, this definitely isn't the first time the husband had that woman there and its probably why the 5yo was so calm about being in the house all the time. Dad must be leaving them alone often to go slightly off the property and get some cheeks.

That last couple might need to seek help from a therapist or counselor. Their troubles in the bedroom are spilling over into other areas of their marriage, potentially stifling their emotional intimacy. It sounds like they still respect each other and their boundaries, which is a good place to start from, so it's imperative that they help each other soon before any bad feelings start to fester.

Story 1: Honestly? If he just constantly denying everything, saying you're overreacting, and only admitting the bare minimum? It's over, really.

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