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The Most Important Conversation You’ll Ever Hear about Women’s Health, HRT, & Menopause

2026-03-23 Education
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Mel Robbins
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This episode is a MUST listen. Mel calls it one of the most important conversations she has ever had on The Mel Robbins Podcast. Most women don’t know this, and this information could save the life of a woman you love. If you are thinking you’re “fine,” while quietly suffering through symptoms that are treatable, you probably don’t know this life-saving medical fact either. Today, Mel is joined by Dr. Rachel Rubin, MD, a leading urologist and sexual health expert, to talk about hormones, menopause, libido, pelvic health, UTIs, and what’s happening in your body. In fact, since recording this episode, the majority of women on the team have spoken to their doctors about what Dr. Rubin shared. You’re about to hear what she wishes every woman knew sooner: Almost every issue that you're dealing with “down there” is likely related to changing hormones. If you’ve ever dealt with a UTI, leaking, urgency, dryness, painful sex, or that feeling that something is “off” down there, and you’ve been told it’s normal, it’s aging, or it’s just something you have to live with, this episode could change your life and have you asking, Why have I not heard this before? Do not learn this too late. By the time most women get the right information, they have already lost years to pain, discomfort, anxiety, and unnecessary treatments. No matter how old you are, all women need to understand this information. This is the conversation that will make you understand your body differently, and realize you have been tolerating things you do not have to tolerate. If you’re a woman in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond, this is information you deserve to have now. Your health should not be a mystery. You should not have to suffer. This conversation will give you the truth about your health and may even save your life or the lives of a woman you love. For every single study and resource Dr. Rubin mentions, click here for the podcast episode show notes: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-380/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 0:00 Meet the Guest 3:35 Why Women’s Sexual Health Falls Through The Cracks 5:45 The Most Common (And Harmful) Advice Women Hear About Pain 6:23 The Symptoms Women Are Told To “Just Live With”: Dryness, Painful Sex, UTIs, Night Peeing, Anxiety, Mood Shifts 8:17 Hormones Across The Female Lifespan: Puberty, Ovulation, Pregnancy, Postpartum, Breastfeeding, Perimenopause, Menopause 14:36 Recurrent UTIs In Women 16:17 Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM Explained) 19:20 Vaginal Estrogen Box Warnings 21:16 GSM, Explained Simply: pH, Thinning Tissue, Burning, “UTI-Like” Symptoms, And Why GSM Gets Misdiagnosed 30:11 Why Systemic HRT Often Isn’t Enough 33:19 Vaginal Estrogen Delivery Options: Cream, Tablet, Ring—Benefits, Dosing, Cost, And How To Choose 41:00 Dr. Rubin’s Mother’s ICU Story 47:38 Who Should Consider Vaginal Estrogen Or Vaginal DHEA 49:54 Genitourinary Syndrome Of Lactation (GSL): Why Breastfeeding Can Mimic Menopause 55:39 Spironolactone And Birth Control 57:15 The Benefits Of Vaginal Estrogen Beyond UTIs And Why Dr. Rubin Calls It “Women’s Viagra” 1:01:21 How Hormones Trigger UTIs 1:05:39 The Story Behind The FDA’s Blackbox Warning on HRT 1:17:40 The 4 Buckets Framework For Hormone Care 1:19:10 Testosterone In Women’s Health 1:23:21 Vaginal DHEA Vs. Vaginal Estrogen Vs. Systemic Testosterone 01:36:36 Clitoral Adhesions: The Condition Affecting 1 In 4 Women 1:55:29 The 2 Most Common Causes of Painful Sex 1:58:30 How To Advocate For Yourself At The Doctors — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Top Comments (10)

@laurenpeyton6637 2026-03-25

I am a primary care provider- as a family nurse practitioner and a woman I am constantly looking for information on how to help my patients. I took in every word from Dr. Rubin- watched and rewatched- and looked to her data. I am able to write these prescriptions daily and I am! Dr. Rubin and Mel are helping so many women in a trickled down effect every time I send that prescription! Thank you both!

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@stephani4636 2026-03-23

Every woman needs a Dr.Rubin !💜💜💜💜

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@mariareyes2592 2026-03-24

If all medical doctors could have this kind of heart to care for patients

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@robinchristie9248 2026-03-27

My biggest frustration is if men were having these issues, they would have had this years ago. I am tired of women having to just "deal with it". Tired of everything for women being so difficult. Thank you for this!!!

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@flipyour20 2026-03-23

I used to be a Health teacher in NYS. I had to have my middle/high school students draw in the clitoris b/c it was not in any textbook. I spent almost an entire lesson on all things clitoris. I even made sure to wear a hoodie to explain and give a visual for the clitoral hood. This is going back 20 years. I'd be damned if my students didn't learn about this. Dr. Rubin should be awarded all of the recognition, awards and grants. She is forever changing female health for future generations.

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@laurabrown9927 2026-03-24

I am going through perimenopause and went to three different physicians regarding my symptoms because my symptoms were really affecting my everyday life. I really started noticing the symptoms around 42 years old, I'm 44 now. I was gaslit by my doctors saying that, "If I still have my period, I'm fine!" He prescribed me an antidepressant and then told me that if the antidepressant did not work that I'd have to go to a psychiatrist. My gynecologist told me I was fine and it was normal. I was so angry!!!! I finally found a program that helps women going through this and they prescribed me progesterone and estrogen. I FINALLY feel more like myself. Not 100% yet but still working with dosages but I'm soooooooo much better. I'm so angry that women have/had to go through this and I feel awful for all the women in the past that never got any help.

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@youwusky 2026-03-28

What "Pisses Me Off" is, why are doctors not EDUCATING themselves if they are unaware???? As a nobody with an average girl job - I would not keep my job if I didn't CONTINUALLY educate myself with the latest info about my job so I am currently. I would be considered to not be fulfilling my employment expectations. Why should doctors be any different? Especially doctors!! So frustrating!!! They use the excuse "They didn't teach us that in med school". It's time for them to grow up and be accountable like the rest of us.

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@annakhrul-tran5943 2026-03-27

I'm 45 and in full perimenopause. I started taking testosterone one year ago. It saved my life on all the levels that Dr. Rubin is talking about. Also just a FYI my body started producing more estrogen when I began taking testosterone. I do not have any negative symptoms and I do not have extra hair anywhere or a deep voice. I also have been talking to women my age and telling them my HRT story and encouraging them to go to my OBGYN who's a wonderful doctor and understands hormones and prescriptions very well. Listening to Dr. Rubin is so very validating and empowering, thank you for fighting for us and changing lives! I'm so grateful for people like you.

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@Kathie-j8b 2026-04-01

My male doctor had me pee in a cup and run a culture. If it did not grow anything, I had no infection. But, I had hormone issues?! There is a female doctor in the same office. I scheduled with her when he was on vacation. She said she reviewed my history before our appointment and sees too many UTIs. I am sending a prescription for vaginal estrogen. I have not had one UTI since!!! So grateful to her being educated about women needs.

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@carasweeney1978 2026-04-03

This podcast has been life changing for me. I am 56 years old, have given birth to 3 children and am post-menopausal. Not one of my doctors have EVER talked to me about any of this. I have complained about symptoms, and nothing has been done for me. I am having a LOT of the symptoms mentioned in this pod cast and I seriously thought that I had just deal with the symptoms I am having because it is the life stage I am in. I think every single woman on the planet needs to hear this podcast. I have shared it with all of my female friends and family members. Because of this podcast, I am changing my gynecologist, and I am going to take a proactive approach to getting treatment. Thank you!

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