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Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People? - Crappy Childhood Fairy

2025-05-01 People & Blogs
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Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, is a trauma educator, Youtuber and an author. Why do some people fall so hard, so fast? It might not be love, but it could be limerence. So what exactly is limerence, what triggers it, and how do you handle it, whether you're experiencing it or the one receiving it? Expect to learn what limerence is and how it differs from infatuation or a crush, what the main emotions behind limerence is and what causes it, why some people get hardcore limerence and others don’t, if limerence is a type of mental illness or if it can be caused by just good sex, how modern media depictions of functional and dysfunctional relationships contribute to limerence, if limerence if more common in women or men, and much more… - 00:00 What Is The Meaning Of Limerence? 04:57 Does An Anxious Avoidant Relationship Entail Limerence? 07:21 The Main Emotions Of A Limerent Person 21:51 Is There An Imbalance Of Value In The Mind? 26:41 What Causes Limerence? 35:53 Example Of A Limerent Person And LO 39:38 Seeking Out The Right Relationship 44:35 Why Limerence Doesn't Affect Everyone 50:11 Managing Our Own Needs And Responsibility 58:19 Does Limerence Serve An Evolutionary Purpose? 1:01:16 Is Limerence An Addiction? 1:14:32 Does Limerence Effect One Gender More Than The Other? 1:18:50 How To Overcome Limerence 1:22:40 Where To Find Anna - Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom - Download Anna Runkle's free guide, Signs of Limerence: https://bit.ly/4lRHWGv Click here to order Anna's books Re-Regulated https://hayhs.com/r_pp_hc_az and Connectability https://hayhs.com/c_pp_hc_az. Click here for Anna's YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/CrappyChildhoodFairy Website: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Top Comments (10)

@xofruit 2025-05-01

Was not expecting a Crappy Childhood Fairy x Chris Williamson collab. She is amazing.

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@SuhailKhan-sl5jw 2025-06-14

To anyone who's suffering depression, anxiety, insomnia and other mental health problems, you are not alone. I feel you. You are so brave. You are doing so well. I'm proud of you. I'm sending you a virtual hug ❤ For me, it wasn’t therapy or meds that helped the most — it was reconnecting with myself. I started using the exercises in Shift Your Mind by Alexander Brooks, and it made me feel human again. The anxiety that used to control my whole day barely shows up now! 🙏❤

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@redeemed_sigma 2025-05-02

Oh man she's described the entirety of my "romantic" experience. I thought this was just how crushes usually are

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@bingflosby 2025-05-02

Her understanding of family dynamics with drugs and alcohol in the home with kids It’s a huge part of my healing journey

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@kronos458 2025-05-04

I see Limerence as another trauma-related dissociation, where you imagine having what you know, you are unable to receive.

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@cheekyboy-ho9ub 2025-07-13

"Your mind just starts to find love where there isn't a love, which is what you learned to do as a kid, when you weren't getting loved". There it is.

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@SamuelStorrer 2025-05-05

This lady, nailed it, four or five years ago she saved my life, I had a crappy childhood, her logic fixed me made me a much happier person. I am not in a relationship and perfectly happy with that.

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@kathleenbrady9916 2025-05-18

She's an amazing woman and has really come from deep trauma to be an intelligent, wise being that's a gift to humanity

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@chart418 2025-05-03

I’m a level 1 autistic and have experienced this more than once. We have narrowed interest with intense hyper focus and sometimes this interest can be a person. Those who experience limerance are probably neurodivergent.

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@ChrisWillx 2025-04-29

Hello you beauties. Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Here's the timestamps: 00:00 What Is The Meaning Of Limerence? 04:57 Does An Anxious Avoidant Relationship Entail Limerence? 07:21 The Main Emotions Of A Limerent Person 21:51 Is There An Imbalance Of Value In The Mind? 26:41 What Causes Limerence? 35:53 Example Of A Limerent Person And LO 39:38 Seeking Out The Right Relationship 44:35 Why Limerence Doesn't Affect Everyone 50:11 Managing Our Own Needs And Responsibility 58:19 Does Limerence Serve An Evolutionary Purpose? 1:01:16 Is Limerence An Addiction? 1:14:32 Does Limerence Effect One Gender More Than The Other? 1:18:50 How To Overcome Limerence 1:22:40 Where To Find Anna

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