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How to Overcome Social Anxiety | Dr. Nick Epley

2026-05-18 Science & Technology
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Dr. Nick Epley, PhD, is a professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago and a leading expert on the science of social connection. We discuss how seemingly small daily interactions with strangers (as well as with people we know) can meaningfully improve our mental and physical health. Dr. Epley also explains how to reduce social anxiety using simple and easily accessible science-supported tools. We also discuss the data on assumptions — both the ones we and others make — and why so often those are wrong when it comes to social dynamics. Show notes: https://go.hubermanlab.com/NaH2OiO Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Wealthfront*: https://wealthfront.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Follow Huberman Lab Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab Threads: https://www.threads.net/@hubermanlab X: https://x.com/hubermanlab Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hubermanlab TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hubermanlab LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-huberman Website: https://www.hubermanlab.com Newsletter: https://www.hubermanlab.com/newsletter Timestamps 00:00:00 Nick Epley 00:02:29 Assumptions about Other Thoughts; Inferring Behavior 00:09:03 Eye Gaze, Social Cues 00:14:27 Sponsors: Wealthfront & Eight Sleep 00:17:18 Tone, Voice vs Writing; AI; Public Figures & Ambiguity 00:29:59 Importance of Social Connection, Communication Types 00:37:18 Social Isolation, Self-Worth 00:42:33 Sponsor: AG1 00:44:16 Social Media, Conversation & Responsiveness 00:47:52 Social Connection & Cooperation; Adopted Children 00:57:04 Connecting with Strangers, Manners 01:02:52 Fear of Strangers, Tool: Small Moments for Connection 01:08:50 Sponsor: Function 01:10:28 Connection to Humanity, Strangers; Extroversion & Well-Being 01:22:26 Social Anxiety & Changing Beliefs; 100 Days of Rejection 01:33:52 Perceived Creepiness, Social Anxiety; Developing Social Skills 01:41:40 Sponsor: LMNT 01:43:00 Initiating Conversation, Testing Cues, Pessimistic Expectations 01:47:00 Social Gatherings; Blessings of Children with Down Syndrome 01:59:43 Parents, Shame, Children Challenges; Supporting Kids’ Pursuits 02:09:17 Outdoors, Hunters, Conservation, Social Connection 02:17:39 Modeling Social Interactions for Kids, Tool: Habits Awareness 02:27:42 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter *This experience may not be representative of other Wealthfront clients, and there is no guarantee of future performance or success. Experiences will vary. Andrew Huberman receives cash compensation from Wealthfront Brokerage for paid testimonials in his podcast, creating a conflict of interest. The Cash Account, which is not a deposit account, is offered by Wealthfront Brokerage LLC, member FINRA/SIPC. Wealthfront Brokerage is not a bank. The base APY is 3.30% on cash deposits as of January 30, 2026, is representative, subject to change, and requires no minimum. If eligible for the overall boosted rate of 4.05% offered in connection with this promo, your boosted rate is also subject to change if the base rate decreases during the 3 month promo period. Additional terms and conditions apply, which can be found on Wealthfront.com/Huberman. Funds in the Cash Account are swept to program banks, where it earns the variable APY. Same-day withdrawal or instant payment transfers may be limited by destination institutions, daily transaction caps, and by participating entities such as Wells Fargo, the RTP® Network, and FedNow® Service. New Cash Account deposits are subject to a 2-4 day holding period before becoming available for transfer. Investment advisory services are provided by Wealthfront Advisers LLC, an SEC-registered investment adviser. Securities investments: not bank deposits, bank-guaranteed or FDIC-insured, and may lose value. #hubermanlab Disclaimer & Disclosures: https://www.hubermanlab.com/disclaimer

Top Comments (10)

@hubermanlab 2026-05-18

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@Neuroshiftdaily 2026-05-18

Anxiety gets stronger when you keep obeying it. The way out usually starts with proving to your nervous system, one small step at a time, that discomfort is not danger.

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@RicardoCarvalho_1996 2026-05-22

Taking small opportunities to connect is so powerful. Today I went to gift pastries to some employees of a CBD/hair/tattoo shop that helped me out the other day when I slipped on the pavement and skinned my knee. They immediately came outside, invited me in, gave me some cream to disinfect the wound, and tea for me to drink while I rested for a bit, even going as far as offering to drive me home or call a car, amazing people, and after dropping off the pastries and seeing their surprise and smile I just couldn't stop smiling on my way home, doing things for others (even small things) brings us immense happiness

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@jurlohle 2026-05-20

is it me or could this conversation have gone much deeper into the actual "how to overcome social anxiety" instaed of mostly focussing on the exposure-theory. I feel like there is alot of valuable ground that wasn't covered here, like habits that create more anxiety, habits that lower it, context and behaviours that might be conducive to create social interaction. But also about the structure of identity and other fundamental elements that i suppose are needed to interact with another, and how this ties into anxiety. I think alot of the anxiety is also about our beliefs about ourselves, not just the other which i feel this conversation mostly focussed on. I think the anxiety that comes from low selfworth which is more rampant in today's society of lonely people and idealized life is quite significant. And i suppose there are a hoast of other elements that influence social anxiety. It would have been nice to learn more about these mechanisms of anxiety (and how exposure therapy overcomes them) and some more insight in how to actually become better at social interaction and social dynamics (e.g. conversation) - beyond just exposure therapy. I myself for instance notice very much, how sleep, productivity, environment, exercise, limiting phone use, going outside etc. help. But I still find it hard to actually genuinely connect with people and find a way to be more comfortable with it. In part i think it has to do with my own beliefs about myself but also the nature of modern social dynamics. I don't feel like this conversation did much more than tell me that apparantly is not as scary as it looks - which i guess i already knew. PS. i did actually enjoy the podcast ;) <3

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@remiliaprower9483 2026-05-18

Dr. Huberman once said that taking the time to wish someone a good morning can have a positive effect in a person's life from day to day (I think) so, good morning, everyone~

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@aniclips275 2026-05-23

The title isn't really covering the topics of "overcoming social anxiety" but rather focuses on the science behind socialization and how we do it. These are distinct differences.

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@gamingarttv 2026-05-19

They keep saying that spending day alone feels like crap but for me having a day for myself rejuvenates me in so many ways that I cant comprehend how can it be as bad as they say?

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@metamooo 2026-05-19

This guy seems like a great father, neighbor, and human being...

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@Zamir.Samadi 2026-05-18

Im suffering from it for years it's terrible

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@Keepitcurious1685 2026-05-18

What a wonderful guest, so expert and genuine. He certainly appears to be equally brilliant and kind of heart. ❤ Listening to his insight and the discourse has been uplifting. Thank you.

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