Andrew Huberman: Relationships, Drama, Betrayal, Sex, and Love | Lex Fridman Podcast #393

Lex, it is such an honor and pleasure to sit down, in person, and discuss life and love, and all the rest with you. You’re an extraordinary human being whose positive contributions to humanity are cemented in history and there is far more to come. So grateful to have you as a friend and colleague. I love you brother. To the end!

Feels like there's a resurgence of healthy masculinity and male friendships in our culture right now, and I see the two of you at the very forefront of it. So much love for you guys. Inspired by your friendship and work together. Keep going, the world is better for it!

Here are the timestamps. Please check out our sponsors to support this podcast. Transcript: https://lexfridman.com/andrew-huberman-4-transcript 0:00 - Introduction & sponsor mentions: - InsideTracker: https://insidetracker.com/lex to get 20% off - Eight Sleep: https://www.eightsleep.com/lex to get special savings - AG1: https://drinkag1.com/lex to get 1 month supply of fish oil - Shopify: https://shopify.com/lex to get $1 per month trial - NetSuite: http://netsuite.com/lex to get free product tour 1:31 - Exercise routine 7:42 - Advice to younger self 14:56 - Jungian shadow 19:42 - Betrayal and loyalty 39:52 - Drama 57:31 - Chimp Empire 1:02:24 - Overt vs covert contracts 1:08:31 - Age and health 1:14:39 - Sexual selection 1:25:15 - Relationships 1:37:49 - Fertility 1:48:15 - Productivity 2:05:02 - Family

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEX! Thanks for making us a little less dumb over the years 🎉

I just want to give Andrew a big collective hug for opening up.

Andrew and Lex's bromance is reall... and i'm here for it!

I almost cried at the end of the episode. It's a privilege to witness the work and existence of these two men.

That was the most amazing heartfelt podcast with Andrew Huberman, I’ve ever seen. So special to have this rare glimpse into the souls of these two beautiful friends. It was an honor to watch this episode.

These guys are such a perfect example of what the ideal male friendship should look like

“Laughing at the absurdity of it all” is probably one of my greatest feelings these past few years. In three years I’ve lost 130 pounds. I’ve tackled everything I hated about my life. I’ve had so many ups and downs over the course of it, but I just keep moving forward. Every time I get close to having “The Life I Want”, something happens. Something takes me a step back, always. The closer I got the more it hurt to take a step back. One night I had a moment where I let it get to me bad. All the sudden I had this feeling of laughter come over me (was micro-dosing shrooms). I started maniacally laughing with tears in my eyes. I had this realization that there was never going to be a single point to make it to. If I kept trying to finish the race, I never would. I was thinking as if I needed to race to my goals, but the ultimate goal was a better life, and life’s not a race, it’s a journey. I focused so hard on the goal that I forgot to enjoy what I had worked for. I have accomplished so much. I have made so many changes to my life for the better. There is nothing about me that I have left to hate and it’s a little weird to me. I hardly remember this feeling. I no longer let set backs pull me down any harder than they should. Lately I’ve just laughed everything off. I let myself feel it, because I’m still human, then I laugh it off. I laugh it off and then adjust my goals accordingly. The closer I got to my ultimate goal, the less fulfilled I felt. Luckily I was able to move past that and finally enjoy my hard work. I can confidently say I’m the happiest, healthiest me I have ever been, and I can only move up from here. I still have goals to meet, but they’re always moving. They will forever be just ahead of me. I wish I had the drive to share my experience and knowledge like those who have helped me so much over the years, like Andrew & Lex, but that’s just not me. I will say this. Stay positive, work hard, don’t blame anyone else for your problems. Your life is your responsibility to improve and yours alone. Blaming anyone but yourself for your current reality will never serve you. The act of working to better your life, makes your life better. Don’t let anything hurt you any longer than it needs to. If you don’t meet a goal in the timeframe you wanted, forgive yourself and adjust, move forward. Set new goals always. Find peace within yourself, something to love in everyone, a reason to unite with another, and respect for all.