5 Signs Of An Incompatible Relationship & 3 Signs You’ve Found “The One"

I love this Mel. I just finalized a divorce this summer and it was the scariest thing ever. But when I found out he had been lying to me for years, didn’t want to put in the effort, and constantly felt that things felt off. I used to dread listening to podcasts like these because I knew I needed to leave but I was so scared. I’m so happy 6 months later I was able to be courageous and not have a panic attack listening to this. I feel so validated and supported. I truly love my singlehood and this new chapter in my life.

Choosing yourself comes with lots of goodbyes and it really hurt

I found I was much happier single than in a relationship with someone who was unwilling to change/couldn’t change. There are worst things than being alone. You can have someone there with you, but if they’re on a different path that doesn’t align with yours, move on. You deserve better.

49 y/o Married twice divorced twice 5 children with my first wife of 17 years. She left me for my friend I’ve dated many women over the past 4 years with 2 significant relationships. My romantic experience has been the most challenging part of my life. Been in the depths of depression, anxiety, shame, betrayal all of the things. And in the end I’ve come to realize the problem is the person in the mirror. Yes others have wronged me, yes they have done hurtful mean things, yes they have manipulated…but none of them have made decisions for me or forced me to act. I’m the one that owns my decisions how I react to bad or hurtful behavior. I own me and no one else. I control my life my feelings my destiny. This has been the most life changing concept for me. Stop being a victim and start owning my life.

It is so rare to find someone willing to listen, absorb, and correct without making you feel like you’re the problem.

At 59, I had to come to terms with the fact that I made a big mistake, lived in a marriage where the other half was constantly in some kind of drama/conflict, dragging me into it, blaming me for his frustration to the point that I started believing what he said. I finally realized he was simply not authentic in any meaningful way. Saying i love you then the next day treating me like garbage; charming and seemingly thoughtful when others were watching, then critical and mean behind closed doors. I finally believed what he was showing me with the way he treated me—“when someone shows you who they are, believe them—the first time”. Had to come to terms with the fact that because he did not see a problem with it, of course it would not get better. The divorce has been contentious and hard, but I do not regret ending this marriage. Anyone thinking it’s too late to start over—it’s really not. It is such a relief to have this crushing negativity out of my daily life.

1. Chasing the fantasy/potential 2. Not aligned on values and character. 3. Are you chasing the 20%? Do they have 80% of what matters?

I was a fixer for almost 10 years, and it never works, to anyone who is watching this, the best thing you can do, is fix your self, dont ever forget that

Be with someone who makes you the priority, this is the best point❤

I left my husband of 33 years 5 years ago. He had a bad temper and anger issues. Kids are grown up. On a walk one day I asked him to see a therapist for help, said I'd go with him, his answer was, "there's nothing wrong with me, if you dont like it, you know where the door is!" That afternoon I took off my wedding ring and checked out emotionally. Not long after I filed for divorce, he was in shock, he obviously didn't think I'd put me first.