r/AITA My New Wife Wants to Steal My Kid's Money

Dude wasn’t “trying his best”. He wasn’t even trying at all.

First story is not a good dad. If he needs somebody to hold his hand to parent, that’s NOT parenting

12:32 French African here, perhaps I'm not that legitimate, but I think that, while racism comes from ignorance, not every ignorance regarding race becomes racism.

First story. I'm on the autistic spectrum (diagnosed as an adult in my 40s) and have very little ability to understand other people's needs and wants emotionally. I'm also terrible with unfamiliar things if they come as a surprise. So when I had kids I did what always worked for me. I watched what other people did and learned how to react. It's by no means perfect and I've definitely made mistakes. But even I can tell this guy's useless. He has four kids. He's had time. There's just no excuse for being this bad a parent.

OMGS, that garbage dude was a life threatening level of useless. That poor woman would have been safer if he wasn't even in the house. I hope she recovered all right.

Honestly the part about "Monique being a french name" it's clearly not from bad intent, especially in the south, in france it's an older name that you don't see much at all and the only other non black diaspora where you'd find a Monique reliably is Quebec, like yeah maybe he didn't know but even then, if you're in California and someone mentions an Enrique nobody would give you flack for assuming they were Mexican if they actually came from Spain

Paintball Story: NTA. They are surprised? This is a tournament, why do they EXPECT OP and her boyfriend to go easy on them, just because they are new? They are asking for leniency in a TOURNAMENT. What, are they gonna get mad at the others for destroying them too? Again, this is a TOURNAMENT, of course others are gonna try hard.

The first guy is another child, not a parent.

First Story, NTA: This guy is a terrible father. He shouldn't be a parent at all if he needs constant hand holding to deal with his own kids. It would be a different story if he was a new dad but this guy has FOUR kids. Yeah, I had to hear this again. The fact he has absolutely NO IDEA what to do really makes me question how involved he is in with his kids. He doesn’t even know his own kids' likes and can’t keep them under control. What did his wife see in him?

Last story: As a black woman who grew up in Charleston, SC, that hit a bit close to home. My name is also French but growing up teachers acted like it was too "exotic" for them to pronounce. Had one "friend" get it wrong and responded with "I'm sorry. I'm not used to ghetto slang names." Fast forward and I moved to NC, no one has gotten my name wrong unless it was in cursive and they had trouble reading it. In hindsight, I think my teachers and other outside adults kept trying to "blackify" my name and that's why they kept getting it wrong.