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Don’t Argue or Fight With a Narcissist… Do This Instead (#1 Narcissism Expert)

2024-05-18 People & Blogs
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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Do you want to know how to deal with difficult people? What about if that difficult person in your life is a parent, boss, ex, child, or partner? Today, renowned psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to give you the tricks you need to master to live a more peaceful life. This episode is your masterclass on how to identify and heal from toxic people. Dr. Ramani will teach you how to not only deal with people who are disrespectful, passive aggressive, and can’t control their emotions, but also how to heal from the damage that they can cause you. She will show you how you can stay in your power and purpose no matter who you have to deal with in your life. You’ll learn how you can keep your goals, priorities, and happiness front and center, no matter what is happening around you. Dr. Ramani's website: https://doctor-ramani.com Follow Dr. Ramani on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani For more resources, including links to Dr. Ramani’s book, website, and social media platforms, click here for the podcast episode page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-174 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast 00:02:48: You know that difficult person in your life; let’s talk about it. 00:04:19: How to set healthy boundaries with the people in your life. 00:05:57: Are narcissists born or are they made? 00:09:04: This conversation on narcissism is unlike anything you have ever heard. 00:11:37: Do not make this one mistake in your relationships. 00:12:55: If you are in a toxic relationship, I want you to hear this. 00:13:40: What narcissist supply is and how to avoid filling it. 00:14:42: Do you feel the need to impress your parents, even as an adult? 00:16:32: Stop trying to change the difficult people in your life. 00:20:04: Why radical acceptance is your first step towards healing. 00:21:17: Your biggest barrier to healing is this (it’s not what you think). 00:25:07: Why do people stay in unhealthy, toxic relationships? 00:26:37: We need to normalize grief in these specific situations. 00:28:28: Is “closure” really the thing that we need when we end a relationship? 00:32:49: Dr. Ramani wants you to avoid this one type of relationship. 00:34:40: The surprising function of rumination. 00:38:07: What it looks like to be a survivor of narcissistic abuse. 00:41:36: Watch out for the patterns in narcissistic relationships. 00:46:50: What the “ick list” is and how it can help you overcome narcissistic abuse. 00:48:49: Anybody can change; a narcissistic person won’t. 00:51:34: What the 12-month cleanse is and why it is essential for healing. 00:56:07: What if you cannot cut the narcissistic person out of your life? 1:02:15: How to identify if you were a scapegoat for your parents. 1:04:35: Are you a truth-teller or a truth-seer? 1:11:55: How to handle co-parenting with a narcissist? 1:20:37: How you can forgive yourself for being in an unhealthy relationship — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah #lifeadvice #selfdevelopment #habits

Top Comments (10)

@janiceenright8969 2024-05-18

I am surrounded by narcissistic family and I have worked so hard to survive. It’s been taking a toll on my health at this point and it’s a situation that is impossible to get out of. Part of the situation is that I am a caregiver. I am so manipulated. Breadcrumbs and love bombing surround me. Ugh. I am now 73 and it took me this long to realize “it’s not me”!

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@LcWas555 2024-05-18

"Rumination without a solution is depression." TRUTH.

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@Armygirl4Christ 2024-05-23

“Any person can change. The narcissist won’t change.”

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@pravinsingh4872 2025-04-04

I don’t usually comment on videos, but after reading Mareska Manipulation on Vexoner, I had to share this. The strategies in that book are next-level, trust me!

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@carolynford6461 2024-07-08

What I Love is when the narcissist calls you the narcissist when you start putting yourself first.

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@stephaniem.3858 2024-08-09

The PTSD that comes with the narcissistic encounter is huge.

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@Kflo-x50 2025-09-24

After I escaped my dangerous narcissist relationship I celebrated my birthday alone and bought myself a birthday cake , lit the candles and blew them out and let me say that that moment I felt peace and I knew it was going to get better and 4 years later it’s been THE best!

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@glittergirl3052 2024-07-02

Also, when you gain distance and have very limited interactions with the narcissist, it can seem like they are not so bad BUT once you spend more time with them, you realize they are the same old a-holes they have always been. Don’t let distance create amnesia.

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@Nick-cs5yc 2026-04-05

Never argue with toxic idiots!! They will drain you!!!!!!

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@Miriam-nm5qt 2026-05-14

I left half of my family and friends due to this … walked away quietly it’s been over 4 years and I don’t miss any part of it

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