r/Offmychest My Dad is Dating My Classmate!

For the second story, she DESPERATELY needs to talk to her therapist about it That's the entire point of a therapist. Assuming you have a good one, their job is to help you go through your emotions, whether you think your emotions make sense or make no sense. They can help you sort through those emotions and help you to understand why you are feeling the way that you are feeling.

I didn't hear anything when you played the Hertz. And for the last story: OP don't feel bad. Bad people don't deserve to be remembered fondly. The people who say he was a good man didn't live with him. They didn't see everything. You did. You know the truth. Your voice is the one that matters.

Story #2, Survivor. The OP in this story, grieving for her family of origin, this is 100% normal and she should not be ashamed for doing so. I hope she can at least open up to her therapist about this so that her therapist can help her understand that what she is grieving is the healthy family dynamic that she never got, longs for, and may not ever obtain. I hope she can find the confidence to share how she feels so that she can properly grieve and process.

I am soooo relieved that OP #2 survived. So many young women don’t. And I can’t help but wonder how many of those young women have the potential to change the world, but are made to be stay at home wives and mothers. I had a realllyyyy hard time at my grandpa’s funeral. The pastor went on and on about how he’ll be in heaven because the accepted Christ in his life and he was a good Christian! This man was the biggest bigot I have ever personally known. He was racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, MAJORLY islamophobic, rude, cold, and I don’t remember him ever speaking directly to me. Even my sister, who is so very forgiving, had a hard time. We looked at each other and had to try realllyyy hard not to burst out in giggles.

Story #4: Conan O'Brian is apparently 100% Irish. His doctor, upon telling him this, was shocked. You are not supposed to be 100% anything because it means your family tree is a wreath.

Story 2: My daughter has a very high pitched voice which makes her sound like a child. Back when we had a landline, she'd occasionally answer the phone and have someone say: "Can I talk to your mommy?" Once she replied, "I'm sorry, my mother is unavailable." The woman at the other end said: "Unavailable, that's a very grown up word." My daughter replied: "Patronizing, that's another grown up word" and hung up.

What's crazier is Brenda is married. SO she ruined her own marriage (which she probably didn't care about but then WHY get married щ⁠(⁠゜⁠ロ⁠゜⁠щ⁠) Brenda hurt so many people in the first story, her friend, and their parents and her husband. I kept forgetting she was married and 30 yrs old because with these stories people are younger are making such stupid decisions.

I went to my boyfriend's grandma's funeral on Saturday and everyone talked about how kind-hearted and wonderful she was. But toward the end of her life (it's what actually killed her) she was a raging alcoholic. She was bitter, mean, a thief and hurt a lot of people. She wasn't a bad person, just very lost. My boyfriend goes up to speak and he says, "I just want to acknowledge that while Grandma Max was all these wonderful things, there are also a lot of negative emotions out there. How we feel about her death is messy and that's okay." And the reverberating sign of relief and pain hit the whole church at the same time. It was the most thoughtful and wonderful thing I've heard someone say in a time of pain and mourning.

3:49 anyone else hear 'I cannot be in his wife' instead of life?

9:57 tell your therapist. They already know. Trauma makes you separate good and bad making your brain think the good was “worth it” even though you don’t believe it. Your therapist understands this and is wanting for you to bring it up at your own pace.