r/AITA for Scaring Neighborhood Kids?
Analyzing Accountability in Toxic Family Dilemmas from r/AmItheButtHole
Learn why commentators assign blame in conflicts ranging from professional career choices rooted in sexism to extreme measures taken against invasive neighbors.
Short Summary
- Accountability is strongly enforced for parents who enable bad behavior, resulting in severe judgment scores (up to 5/5 Buttholes).
- Decisions decisively favor self-preservation, whether by leaving an untrustworthy live-in partner or refusing to validate a neglectful father.
- Four diverse scenarios are analyzed: an adult son challenging his dismissive father, evicting a lying partner, retaliating against neighbor children's boundary violations, and confronting a father whose denial enabled his son's suicide.
This overview breaks down four distinct ethical dilemmas presented to community judges, focusing on when individuals are absolved of wrongdoing (0/5 Buttholes) versus when severe failure warrants high penalties.
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Top Comments (10)
Second Story, NTA: I wouldn’t believe a word Stephanie says. She lied about the family dinner and let strangers drive a car she doesn’t own nor has any idea where it is now. I wouldn’t believe she didn’t sleep with any of the three guys. OP needs to leave and move on
The last story: Dad get's 5/5, uncle gets 10/5. I had something similar happen, except it was my dad I reported, and my mom, sister, and brother defended him, made me feel guilty for them being questioned, etc. I tried to ask them a few years after dad died why they didn't believe/support me, and they basically said "he'd dead, drop it". Mom has since died, and I am very, very low contact with my brother and sister. So, that is only part of what happened. Four other family members also abused me, and I still have flash-backs and nightmares decades later. Therapy and meds have helped a LOT, so I am healing, but part of me will always be broken.
Last story: I'm not saying if you know an abuser, go full berserk on him, because one, violence might not be your thing, two, consequences might be way worse for you than for him: you might get beaten up, killed or end up in jail. But if someone knows an abuser and does NOTHING AT ALL, they're just as responsible as the actual abuser. 5/5AH for sure.
Story 2: she also lied about going to her mom’s, therefore everything that she did on that point forward was done maliciously AND she for sure cheated.
The third story hit me and reminded me about a parent I encountered on the train ride home. Child was being loud, getting out of there stroller, touching strangers. The mother was on her phone and not giving to thoughts. Not wanting the child to get hurt and not wanting to be touched I looked at the mom and with a low voice said "do something about your child, or I'll do something about your child" the mom jumped and pulled the child in and sat the kid in the stroller and started to play with the kid. Every time I see those 2 they are now both well behaved
A mask I would have rigged a much more elaborate surprise for kids peeking in my window... I used to do haunted houses... I could pull out my skeleton and a dozen other props that would give them nightmares for years.
First Story, NTA: OP's dad is already not proud of OP so why does he want OP to make him proud now? He wasn’t proud when OP came out (to the point he suggested OP was confused and tried to set him up with his friend's daughter). He is just a bad dad and a bad person for cheating
Boo story: i worked at Hot Topic back when they still had good, full bodied costumes for Halloween. One year, it was slow as hell so i donned on a full, head to toe Swamp Monster costume and just, stood in the entryway. Every now and then, id jump and scare whatever passerby was there. Then a lil girl, maybe around 5 or 6, walked up to me. I barely moved when she started screaming. Needless to say, i had to remove the costume after that 😅 Edit : oh, and NTA. The parents are basically letting the kids turn into creepy peepers and thats not ok
Story 2: “Is it possible you didn’t cheat on me? Sure. But for me to believe that I would have to trust you a *lot*, and you’ve done nothing but lie about that night. Whether you did or didn’t doesn’t matter at this point because nothing you say or do will convince you didn’t; I simply don’t trust you enough.”
Story 3: Sometimes a good scaring is all you need to tell the kids "Hey, peering through windows is not okie dokie" because the parents sure won't tell them that beforehand
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Top Comments (10)
Second Story, NTA: I wouldn’t believe a word Stephanie says. She lied about the family dinner and let strangers drive a car she doesn’t own nor has any idea where it is now. I wouldn’t believe she didn’t sleep with any of the three guys. OP needs to leave and move on
The last story: Dad get's 5/5, uncle gets 10/5. I had something similar happen, except it was my dad I reported, and my mom, sister, and brother defended him, made me feel guilty for them being questioned, etc. I tried to ask them a few years after dad died why they didn't believe/support me, and they basically said "he'd dead, drop it". Mom has since died, and I am very, very low contact with my brother and sister. So, that is only part of what happened. Four other family members also abused me, and I still have flash-backs and nightmares decades later. Therapy and meds have helped a LOT, so I am healing, but part of me will always be broken.
Last story: I'm not saying if you know an abuser, go full berserk on him, because one, violence might not be your thing, two, consequences might be way worse for you than for him: you might get beaten up, killed or end up in jail. But if someone knows an abuser and does NOTHING AT ALL, they're just as responsible as the actual abuser. 5/5AH for sure.
Story 2: she also lied about going to her mom’s, therefore everything that she did on that point forward was done maliciously AND she for sure cheated.
The third story hit me and reminded me about a parent I encountered on the train ride home. Child was being loud, getting out of there stroller, touching strangers. The mother was on her phone and not giving to thoughts. Not wanting the child to get hurt and not wanting to be touched I looked at the mom and with a low voice said "do something about your child, or I'll do something about your child" the mom jumped and pulled the child in and sat the kid in the stroller and started to play with the kid. Every time I see those 2 they are now both well behaved
A mask I would have rigged a much more elaborate surprise for kids peeking in my window... I used to do haunted houses... I could pull out my skeleton and a dozen other props that would give them nightmares for years.
First Story, NTA: OP's dad is already not proud of OP so why does he want OP to make him proud now? He wasn’t proud when OP came out (to the point he suggested OP was confused and tried to set him up with his friend's daughter). He is just a bad dad and a bad person for cheating
Boo story: i worked at Hot Topic back when they still had good, full bodied costumes for Halloween. One year, it was slow as hell so i donned on a full, head to toe Swamp Monster costume and just, stood in the entryway. Every now and then, id jump and scare whatever passerby was there. Then a lil girl, maybe around 5 or 6, walked up to me. I barely moved when she started screaming. Needless to say, i had to remove the costume after that 😅 Edit : oh, and NTA. The parents are basically letting the kids turn into creepy peepers and thats not ok
Story 2: “Is it possible you didn’t cheat on me? Sure. But for me to believe that I would have to trust you a *lot*, and you’ve done nothing but lie about that night. Whether you did or didn’t doesn’t matter at this point because nothing you say or do will convince you didn’t; I simply don’t trust you enough.”
Story 3: Sometimes a good scaring is all you need to tell the kids "Hey, peering through windows is not okie dokie" because the parents sure won't tell them that beforehand