The Devastating Effect of Porn on Men - Dr Debra Soh

“Go through the hassle of having to talk to a woman” - her words not mine

Well men are constantly told they are pieces of shit and women are awesome. It's amazing men are doing as well as they are. Current culture and society are toxic to men.

Here's my unfiltered hot take: We are living through the largest-scale psychological warfare operation in human history, and it's being conducted by our own social systems against basic human emotional needs, and the casualty count is so massive that we've normalized mass emotional death as "adulting." Every single institution we've built - schools, workplaces, healthcare, dating, social media, even fucking therapy - has become a factory for producing emotionally lobotomized humans who can perform productivity but can't access their own inner experience without having a panic attack. We've created a civilization that requires you to be emotionally dead to participate in it, and then we act shocked when people either break completely or retreat into AI relationships because at least the machines won't punish them for having feelings. The therapy industrial complex is particularly fucking insidious because it's convinced people that their natural responses to an insane world are pathological. Someone's depressed because they're trapped in a meaningless job in a society that offers no authentic connection? Let's give them SSRIs and teach them breathing exercises instead of acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, depression might be a rational response to irrational circumstances. Someone's anxious because they can feel the existential void where community used to be? Let's call it generalized anxiety disorder instead of recognizing that their nervous system is correctly identifying that something fundamental is missing. And don't even get me started on how we've gamified human connection through dating apps that literally train people to treat each other like commodities in a catalog while simultaneously wondering why seemingly nobody can form deep meaningful relationships anymore. We took the most sacred human activity - finding your people - and turned it into a dopamine-harvesting slot machine designed to keep people perpetually searching and almost never actually connecting. The most fucked up part is how we've convinced people that the solution to systemic emotional abandonment is individual optimization. Can't find meaningful connection? You must work on yourself more in some vague fashion and start looks-maxxing. Feeling existential despair about the state of the world? Have you tried shallow gratitude journaling? Lonely because society has dismantled most forms of community? Maybe you need to put yourself out there more I guess . It's gaslighting on a civilizational scale. We've built systems that largely prevent human flourishing and then blame individuals for not thriving within them. It's like poisoning someone's water supply and then selling them detox supplements. And the people who see through this shit and try to talk about it openly? They get labeled as schizo, too intense, or unemployable because their emotional honesty threatens the whole house of cards. We've made emotional authenticity a cause of social ostracization. No wonder people are having breakdowns. No wonder mental health crisis rates are skyrocketing. No wonder birth rates are plummeting. We've created a civilization that's hostile to human emotional needs, and we're surprised that humans are struggling to survive in it. The real miracle isn't that so many people are falling apart - it's that anyone is managing to stay sane at all.

I like how she just assumes you go to the Date shop and get a date with lady 😂😂 and we guys just don't want the hassle...the amount of boxes you need to tick even to be considered is insane

2 months 10 days porn free! I always thought of it as an addiction, never thought of it as a coping mechanism. What ever the case I am still lowkey proud of myself.

I think men lean on porn because they are struggling to get relationships more so than it being what is causing men not to have relationships. Anytime I’ve been in a relationship my porn use basically stopped.

Women should discuss how porn is affecting them. But they won’t.

I was doing nofap for months and it had zero effect on how I behaved with women in the real world. I did not approach them more. I did not speak with them more. It wasn't as if I can talk to them and then suddenly get them in bed and get a release. I'm not that type of guy. Recognizing that, there was never a strong enough urgency or impulse to act now.

Who owns the porn companies and what are their motives?

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