The Art Of Mastering Your Emotions - Joe Hudson

Regarding "effort" and the desire to control. I learned a principle in martial arts ages ago about how to use force when striking: "Hard to soft, Soft to hard." Which is the notion that if you strike with your fist against a hard bony target like the face, skull, or hard joints, you're very likely to break your knuckles. But if you strike those target points with an open hand strike, you can apply a similar level of force while protecting yourself from harm. Inversely, soft targets like the abdomen are better for striking with a closed hand to transfer more force with a concentrated point of attack and the closed fist allows you to strike a bit deeper for the additional reach. This isn't a lesson about fighting, I promise. I learned to apply this principle to my life for dealing with problems or situations. Hard to soft - change the problems I can change. Do the work. Don't sit idly by and allow a problem to remain a problem when I have the power to resolve it. Soft to hard- when the problem can't be changed or there IS no solution to it, I have to change the way *I* react to it. I change myself around the problem. And I think this philosophy strikes the balance between having agency over your life, and also finding acceptance in the aspects that you are merely subject to. I think that too much force or desire to control, or too much of a laissez-faire mentality BOTH take you out of balance and lead to problems in life and in your emotional well-being. But that's just something I pieced together for me. 🤷‍♂️

Hello you savages. Get a free list of my 100 favourite books - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Avoiding Unwanted Emotions 08:20 The Balance of Being & Becoming 19:02 Using Enjoyment as Fuel 29:09 How to Know When You’re Ready to Let Go 36:35 The Power of Knowing Who You Are 50:22 Why You Shouldn’t Repress Your Emotions 1:01:57 Importance of Learning to Say No 1:07:03 Do We Expect Perfection Too Much? 1:14:54 Why Are People Struggling to Feel Feelings? 1:25:34 Tips to Integrating More Emotions 1:39:49 Differences Between Types of Mindfulness 1:44:32 Where a Negative Inner Voice Comes From 1:54:23 The Role of Improving in Self-Discovery 2:01:58 The Art of Accomplishment 2:09:26 Questions to Ask Yourself 2:15:27 Where to Find Joe

The Golden algorithm 🤯 “Unspoken expectations are predetermined resentments” 🎯

Holy crap I needed this topic at exactly this time.

Trauma is not just held in the muscles, it’s also held in the fascia which is the connective tissue under the skin(think the white stuff you pull off a chicken breast. That’s why craniosacral and myofascial release can be so transformative for emotional and physical trauma. The shaking and twitching after an animal escapes dangers is called “thawing”. Humans have that innate ability to recalibrate their nervous system after trauma but were forgotten. Somatic experiencing works with releasing the trauma in this primal way. Once we feel safe with someone holding us, our body starts discharging the trauma (thawing). My old therapist reminded me that when we come out of a freeze, we’ll have to feel the underlying anger or flee energy we split from before we froze. Great video! Just had a few comments I found useful that took me too long to find out about so thought I’d share. ✨

0:37 seconds in and I'm already opening up another tab for a 41min episode of Joe's podcast. His work truly hits hard, and it runs deep...

I wanted to say that listening to this interview really helped with getting out of a very unhealthy mental state. I had been going through a horrible breakup, some of the worst emotional pain I've ever felt in my life. Was the closest I've ever been to suicidal. I realized how much I was avoiding things that reminded me of him and how that was actually making anxiety worse. This interview helped me so much, along with therapy, and medication.

This is my favourite CW podcast of all time. Joe’s a powerful teacher. I downloaded it so when I’m stuck on a plane (or somewhere else without WiFi) I can listen to it again and again. Each time there’s more juice to be squeezed, more shifts to learn, remember, and apply.

My old patterns trying to yell at me during this episode: you should have understood these things YEARS ago

Chris , you do a brilliant job of hosting ! You're one of the only hosts I've ever listened to that doesn't interrupt their guests. Thank you for doing such an exceptional job!