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How to Properly Discipline Children - Erica Komisar

2026-06-10 Film & Animation
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Erica Komisar, LCSW, is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, parent coach, and author. With over thirty years of experience in private practice, she works to alleviate pain in individuals who suffer from depression, anxiety, eating, and other compulsive disorders. By helping them live better lives and have more prosperous, more satisfying relationships, she assists them in achieving their personal and professional goals and living up to their potential. Learn more about Erica's work at https://www.ericakomisar.com/ 00:00 Erica Komisar Introduction 01:08 The Daycare Backlash and Why Erica Still Tells Parents the Truth 05:28 When Is It Okay to Let a Child Cry? 07:48 Parents as the Emotional Digestive System 09:30 Empathy, Limits, and Handling Toddler Meltdowns 12:02 Should Boys Be Raised Differently Than Girls? 17:57 Discipline Without Punishment 24:46 Emotionally Regulated Parents Raise Emotionally Regulated Children 26:56 Teaching Through Love vs Teaching Through Fear 27:39 Why Most People Go to Therapy 28:24 Trauma Culture and the Rise of Therapy Language 31:45 Why Men Struggle More With Vulnerability 34:29 Why Young Men Are Returning to Church 38:01 Faith, Parenting, and Emotional Security 39:43 Building Resilience Through Disappointment 41:56 Why We Shouldn't Toughen Up Children 43:45 The Missing Piece in Modern Fatherhood 44:46 What Happens When a Child Grows Up Without a Father 48:46 The Good Mother Fails: Freud, Fathers, and Independence 50:49 Why Children's Academic Performance Is Declining 52:34 The Power of Parental Availability 54:31 Why Society Rewards Work More Than Parenting 55:26 Why Parenting Cannot Be Outsourced 56:00 Is There Ever a Good Form of Daycare? 56:56 One Small Change Every Parent Can Make This Week 57:39 Erica's Books, Website, and Final Thoughts

Top Comments (10)

@LondonRednek 2026-06-10

Open minded, but can we some evidence of her results before taking the word as gospel?

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@VipProblema 2026-06-13

Honestly, Ericas points on kindergartens are wild! I get it though, cause Im always on edge about my kids school setup. Findmykids helps me breathe easy knowing shes safe while Im juggling these parenting theories 😁

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@FabiChewo-h3b 2026-06-10

The Episode dropped when i needed it the Most... What is happening??? ❤

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@gbowman9429 2026-06-10

As a babysitter for a 5 yo boy who all his life was a witness to father's narcissistic domestic violence, mental and emotional abuse to mother who is in proceedings for divorce & sole custody of child, is mirroring dads behaviors. He doesn't understand why dad got away with that but he is being told he can not behave like that because it is wrong. This is my challenge. His mother is also victimized by that relationship and is vulnerable but growing tremendously. i do my best to create safety first environment and hand are for helping, building, and healing, not for hurting. He is struggling with this and his first day on the school bus ended up in the principles office for punching a peer. He hits and fights with females, not males. i am not frustrated, but definitely challenged because i am not a therapist. i encourage her to get him into therapy now that she is following a professional plan, i told her we need one for her son. A treatment plan for him from a licensed child therapist. i am terrified to further damage him by not knowing what i am doing is the proper thing for him specifically. Thank you for this video. i love you guys. The disciple example you said is EXACTLY how i work the idea of "discipline." Wow, that felt good ❤❤❤😊🥰

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@shawski24 2026-06-10

I dont trust her because she doesn't listen well, she is into tv, ya know a boomer, and she thinks that removing yourself from a situation when you can not regulate your emotions ,time ourt, is somehow a punishment instead of a lesson on what to do when you feel out of control. ❤

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@FragmaTactics 2026-06-11

"I AM Proud of You. You are Special. I Love You." https://youtu.be/mSv8xl9w2uc?si=sbCPiXKEB4A8gpwv "consciousness is a torsion [field] generator." One ♾️ Love

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@SteadyReturntomovement 2026-06-14

Thank you, so blessed and thankful for this video! 💐 I love all of your videos and Everything Erica said hit home in every way! So much help🙏🏼🤰🏼

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@Augfordpdoggie 2026-06-10

is this the lady in the Ryan Long video? it looks and sounds like her

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@00i0ii0 2026-06-16

✝️

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@Casiusss3 2026-06-17

Guess who created current state of transfer child into daycare form mothers and fathers?

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