Something Scary Happened The Other Day and I Wanted To Talk To You About It | Mel Robbins Podcast

On the morning of July 19th, my husband and best friend of 17 years, had a heart attack in front of me. I immediately called 911 and performed CPR for about 10 minutes, until the paramedics arrived. They worked on him for about 10 more minutes and were able to get his heartbeat back just as they arrived at the hospital. My beautiful, sweet husband died the next night. The thing is, we were in the middle of auctioning our home, and everything we owned on August 3rd. We had always dreamed of moving to Italy when he retired and we rented an apartment in Southern Italy. Our flight is booked for September 4th. In the last few weeks, I've had to take care of everything related to his death, the auction, and everything else. I'm sitting in an empty house right now, trying to pack my bags for the trip I intend to keep. I haven't processed his death. I am so numb. I'm alone and sad. I just keep listening to Mel's podcasts, because she makes me feel like someone is in my corner. I'm not afraid of the future. I'm carrying on with our dream. I'll be okay.... It's the present that I'm having trouble with.

Thank you. I needed this advice. I had to put my beloved cat down. He was my spiritual partner. I have grief and guilt, and I miss him very much. I feel very alone in this, as most people think; "it's only a cat."; I can feel people think, "Aren't you over this yet?" This podcast will help me take the steps to heal.

Thank you Mel ❤, I really needed to see this podcast about “Trauma.” All this time I have been holding it in and when I did try to talk about it, no one wanted to take the time to really hear what I had to say. I now know that I have been reaching out to the wrong people. I really need to see a psychologist who can help me, tell my story of the way it needs to be told in order to heal not only my mind mentally, but my overall body, and soul. I’m just fresh out of living a traumatic experience, and I’m tired of my family telling me just to get over it. They were not there in my shoes when I was sent to a hospice on Oct 16th, 21, and given only 2-3 months to live at the age of 44. I was surrounded by people that I got close to that were literally dying left and right. Well the good news from all this is that I survived, how 🤷‍♀️, I still don’t know till this day. On Dec 22nd/22, I was finally able to return home to my 3 children. I’m beyond grateful for a second chance at life, but I feel I still have not dealt with the trauma that I have witnessed while my stay at the Hospice. The Dr’s, nurses, care workers, could not believe what they were witnessing when they finally said their goodbyes to me not by dying, but by wishing me well as I was leaving the facility to go home 🏠 to my children ALIVE. They all said it was a miracle, cause they never see anyone leave a hospice like they witnessed that day with me. I’m very grateful, and so beyond thankful to be home with my children, & family. But the trauma I went through still haunts me, & it’s time to take action to file that memory in a healthy way, so I can live the best life I can with my 3 beautiful children. Love you Mel ❤❤❤

Beautiful. Thank you Mel for being so open. So sorry you went thru and are going thru this. I so needed this podcast right now. I’m working thru serious PTSD right now from an event that happened 20 years ago. So needed to hear “the trauma response is a sign of your survival, not that you are broken!” Wow! Sending much love to you! Arm around your shoulder.

Thank you for addressing this. I was involved in a motorcycle accident this summer (about two months ago) and my friend and lover didn't make it. On top of my own severe injuries from the accident, I am dealing with the loss of my friend and our potential future together. I do have a trauma therapist, but I am still searching for info to help me deal with this impossible mess. Every day is a challenge. I feel this insane need to talk about the accident all the time. I see now that I need to be a little kinder to myself and understand that my mind is still trying to process this trauma. Talking is good. My mind and body are telling me that it is trying to process the event. It's not about obsessing about the event, but rather about trying to heal and find meaning in my emotions and the events I witnessed. Thank you, Mel! You rock!

I lost my orange furbaby in April. I am still heartbroken. May all who have lost someone or a furry someone..may you all feel some peace and love. I believe that they are all watching over all of us.

As a young teen I witnessed a car accident at an intersection by my home. I heard an unfamiliar, horrible sound of the impact and crunch of metal and then a woman screaming for help for her baby. It is something I remember often in my life especially after having a child. An insurance agent came to our home for my statement and then we never spoke about it again in our family. I didn't have the tools to process this as a young person. That day that woman lost a child and I still think of her and what that must have done to the rest of her life.

I am married to a first responder who has seen horrific trauma through his 20+ career. I always feel guilty when I encounter something that would be considered a “small” trauma and it effects me and I just swallow it down. I don’t know how first responders do it but I can tell you, being the wife of one, you see the lack of support in the agency’s and how this trickles down to the wives and kids. I am so glad you are doing a video like this. It is very much appreciated and is a great stepping stone for those seeking to find a healing path.

This was so wonderful. A little over a year ago, my teenage daughter and I found my brother dead in our home. I'm a 911 operator, and for a very long time, I literally fought panic attacks at work. Both my baby and I got help. Understanding what is going on in our brains has helped so much. It's a slow process, but we are trying to do exactly what she's talking about. I would love to try EMDR. It's often not covered. ❤

I’m truly blown away how triggered I feel just from the conversation I buried four dogs and six people in the last few years needless to say, I have not dealt with any of it.