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Child Attachment Expert: We're Stressing Newborns & It's Causing ADHD! Hidden Dangers Of Daycare!

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Erica Komisar is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert with over 30 years of private practice experience. She is the author of books such as, ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety’. 00:00 Intro 02:16 Erica's Mission 05:17 Erica's Background 08:26 Who Are Erica's Patients? 09:49 How Have Social Changes Influenced Parenting? 13:14 Is the Role of a Mother More Important Than That of a Father? 16:44 Why Are Fathers Important From a Biological Level? 21:07 Is Guilt a Bad Thing? 23:34 Erica's Unpopular Ideas About Parenting 25:31 Family Diaspora: Raising Children Without Extended Family 27:45 Can Raising Children Away From Extended Family Be Justified? 28:44 Voluntary Childlessness 29:39 Attachment Disorders 33:54 How Do Attachment Disorders Manifest in Adulthood? 35:08 Choosing a Partner Based on Attachment Styles 36:34 Predicting Relationship Success Based on Attachment Styles 38:07 Does Having More Children Correlate With Neglect? 39:33 Decline in Birth Rates 41:36 What Is Unique About Relationships With Your Own Children? 43:25 What Contributes to Growing Infertility Among People? 46:59 How Did Erica Manage to Balance Work and Motherhood? 49:02 Should Fathers Be the Stay-at-Home Parent? 51:32 Harlow's Study on Rhesus Monkeys 53:52 The Challenge of Motherhood in Poor Socioeconomic Conditions 57:50 Does More Paid Leave Equal Better Childcare? 59:24 Connection Between Upbringing and Success in Adult Life 01:01:54 Ads 01:02:59 ADHD: Why Has It Risen So Much in the Past Decade? 01:08:06 ADHD Kids Are in Hypervigilant Stress Mode 01:10:05 We're Medicating ADHD Wrong 01:11:50 The Top Stressors We're Exposing Our Children To 01:13:54 Is ADHD Hereditary? 01:17:18 Can MRI Scans Spot ADHD? 01:19:15 What's Wrong With Medicating Children? 01:22:06 What Actually Is Anxiety? 01:23:40 The Link Between Stress and ADHD 01:24:47 What to Do if a Kid Screams in a Supermarket 01:28:19 The Different Types of Trauma 01:31:49 Stressful States 01:35:08 Same-Sex Couples Taking Roles 01:36:46 What Happens When Women Are the Primary Breadwinners? 01:41:15 What Should Career-Driven Mothers Do? 01:44:33 Not Everyone Can Do This Stuff 01:47:49 Children Don't Need Other Kids Until the Age of 3 01:49:25 Ads 01:51:23 What's So Important at 3 Years Old? 01:57:57 Can I Repair My Trauma and Brain Past My 30s? 02:01:08 Our Pain and Trauma Are Rooted in Childhood 02:04:58 Is "Daddy Issues" a Thing? 02:08:58 Are We Taking Men's Purpose Away? 02:13:06 Men's Testosterone Drops When They Become Fathers 02:15:28 What Happens When Men Become the Primary Caregiver? 02:18:46 Should We Split Schools Into Genders? 02:21:35 Testosterone Decrease 02:23:36 Raising Healthy Kids in a World of Technology 02:27:10 The Importance of Being Present With Your Child 02:28:12 What Should Employers Do? 02:29:47 Do You Realise How Controversial the Things You Say Are? 02:30:26 The Reason All of This Is So Personal to You 02:33:22 What Does Your Obituary Say? Follow Erica: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/pwv9PCz0lRb Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/2EKsgfB0lRb You can purchase Erica’s books: ‘Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety’, here: https://amzn.to/41CKbWd 'Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters' - https://www.amazon.com/Being-There-Prioritizing-Motherhood-Matters/dp/0143109294 Erica also launched her newly initiative Attachment Circles, a platform aimed to create community and educate primary caregivers on the importance of attachment security, particularly in years 0-3. You can find out more, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/OPtiA4a8lRb Get access to exclusive Diary of a CEO content: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGq-a57w-aPwyi3pW7XLiHw/join Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-youtube Independent research: https://stevenbartlett.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/DOAC-Erica-Komisar-Independent-research-further-reading.pdf Sponsors: Bon Charge - http://boncharge.com/diary?rfsn=8189247.228c0cb with code DIARY for 25% off ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code STEVEN10 for 10% off WHOOP - https://JOIN.WHOOP.COM/CEO

Top Comments (10)

@wwilliams4743 2025-03-03

I gave up a career and 20 years of working to be a SAHM. People say I had the "luxury" of staying home, but my husband and I gave up a lot of potential income and all the trappings that brings. It's the hardest job I've ever had. But it was worth every dollar I never earned. They're healthy, happy, well-adjusted, and ready to be adults who contribute to a better society. I couldn't ask for more.

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@anniecrowther8423 2025-03-05

As a mom it became extremely clear to me that I was one hundred percent replaceable in every environment EXCEPT FOR…my home. ♥️👶🏼👧🏼👦🏼

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@HandmaidenUK 2025-03-03

I can’t even watch this because the grief I feel about being brainwashed that I had to keep my career after having my babies is too much! If anyone else reads this - the first 10 years go in a flash!! I was a nurse, so I paid for someone to care for my babies while I cared for others who I can’t even remember now. If you can be a stay at home mum please consider it - before you know it they are teenagers and you can never get those days back 😢

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@JenLa8 2025-03-04

I only started listening to this, but from what I understand this confirms that motherhood and mothering as a job should be highly appreciated by society and first and foremost by the father of the children.

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@khethiwezwane2481 2025-03-06

Wow. "Children need you when they need you, not when you are personally available." May we always be there when our children need us!

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@chichan8424 2025-03-04

The society is not just lying about child care, it is forcing parents to have two incomes just to survive.

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@TheDiaryOfACEO 2025-03-03

Quick question, do you like these types of convos? If so, please hit the like button on the vid - that’s the best way to let us know (also, would be doing me a big favour if you could subscribe & join our community) I appreciate you - SB! X

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@masrisy 2025-03-11

The biggest crime against humanity is forcing mothers to work. And making fun of stay at home moms.

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@crushingcollegechemistryby8222 2025-10-21

My mom always said, "don't have kids until you are ready for your life to not be your own". Glad to see her sentiment backed by research.

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@SSTT007 2025-12-25

Mothers face societal pressure to work. I live in Germany, and almost everyone sends their children to daycare from the age of one. I didn't want to, and I didn't, but my husband's family questioned it. Even women around me who are mothers and send their children to daycare asked very unpleasant questions like, "Are you going to stay home? I can't stay home." I had to explain myself to everyone individually, and I felt guilty for wanting to be with my child. Despite all this, I didn't send my child to daycare, and I don't regret it at all! Because money can be earned, but time can never be recovered! And if I brought a child into the world, I am obligated to provide them with the necessary material and emotional support. If I don't have the time to raise a child, why should I have one? Children shouldn't be born to satisfy anyone's ego or to make someone a parent! Have children only if you can truly be physically and emotionally present. Otherwise, it's unfair and selfish!

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