r/Bestof Is My GF Cheating Because of Wifi?

I actually decided to check Facebook to see if anyone with the name Lolita pops up (just to see if anyone else has thought to name their child that) and I got a warning about child abuse and “seeking help”. The sister is going to regret her choice so much if she actually goes through with naming her daughter that.

In one of the other videos that covered the Lolita story, there were a few comments that said OP’s synopsis of the book of the same name is inaccurate, that the author did not actually intend for you to sympathize with the POV character, as the author himself was a victim. The POV character is an unreliable narrator, essentially. Doesn’t make OP wrong anywhere else here though. Good god I hope the mother comes to her senses…

Here's some TL;DR info about Lolita Fun fact about the novel, according to Nabokov, the author, he once heard a professor of literature arguing that the novel isn't about a child predator, but a hyper-sexual young woman who uses her wiles to seduce a flawed, but weak man. Nabokov responded by telling the professor that he was an idiot who shouldn't be teaching, as H is clearly a manipulative, narcissistic "monster". Nabokov further explained that, as the novel is written in first person, from the perspective of H, it is H that tries to convince everyone, (from himself and other characters, to the reader of his manifest) of multiple, conflicting, excuses/justifications for his actions: "She seduced me/I'm weak/I love Deloris/I've had this proclivity since I was a teen because of an interrupted experience/I hate myself for hurting her/I'd never hurt her/I take good care of her, etc."

Okay, first story: Why do spouses not talk about huge things like this? You should ALWAYS communicate with your spouse about big changes.

Delimiting spaces that are "staff only" and "non staff only" was the first tough I had. If the husband is a doctor and is able to pay for a full team of staff, he probably can pay for a relatively big house or at least, divided in a way where it doesn't have to feel like 100% of the place is a care center.

As a reminder, not every protagonist is supposed to have your support. You're not supposed to feel bad for the narrator of Lolita, you're supposed to find him disgusting. IIRC, the author was PISSED about people trying to frame it as a love story (such as the movie), because that was never his intent.

I can see it now in like 14 years we'll be getting a reddit post from the mother like "aita for naming my daughter Lolita?" and "why does my daughter Lolita refuse to talk to me after finding the meaning behind her name?"

Man the Lolita story is so crazy. OP was as nice as she possible could be, saying multiple times she supports her sister and just wants to help and the sister still response in such a confrontational way. OP was never going to convince her sister. But for lack of a better word I guess OP is going to have the last laugh, because that child is 100% going to hate her mom later in life.

sigh. to this day I feel so sad for Nabokov (author of Lolita) because like, imagine writing a book and assuming that everyone has the same basic standard that an adult man manipulating and abusing a literal child will come across as horrifying to *everyone* despite telling the story from his monstrous POV. and then you realize that no. Plenty of people will defend the monster, or see it romantically. ugh

I remember when my sister was a teen, she was really into Full Metal Alchemist, and one night she proudly told us she wanted to name her first daughter Lust. We were just shocked that she didnt know what it meant and she was so confused lol