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The Charisma Teacher: Psychology Of Why People Don't Like You! People Are Attracted To These Traits!

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Charlie Houpert is the co-founder of the confidence-building online platform, ‘Charisma on Command’. He is the author of books such as, ‘The Anti Pick Up Line: Real Habits To Naturally Attract Stunning Women’ and ‘Charisma On Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energise Everyone You Meet’. 00:00 Intro 02:25 What Is It You Do? 04:39 How Much Can These Skills Change Someone's Life? 06:35 Is It Something You Can Learn? 07:15 Your YouTube Channel 09:37 I Was Shy and Introverted—How I Changed 12:47 What Did You Think of Yourself in the Early Years? 15:22 What Was the Biggest Difference in You? 17:32 First Impressions 21:07 Engineer the Conversation You Want to Have 24:38 How to Get Out of Small Talk 26:05 Flirt With the World 27:55 Prey vs. Predator Movements 35:02 The Confidence Trick Before Speaking to a Big Crowd 37:02 Do We Underestimate the Many Ways We Communicate? 41:11 Is Talking About Yourself a Bad Thing? 43:22 How to Connect With Someone in a Normal Interaction 47:40 How to Identify Real vs. Fake Interactions 50:19 Controlling the Narratives That Reach You 52:18 Narcissists and Sociopaths 55:28 What Billion-Dollar Business Would You Build and Not Sell? 1:01:20 Six Charismatic Mindsets 1:03:16 The "Elon Musk Salute" 1:06:13 Has the Media Made Apologising the Wrong Thing to Do? 1:08:31 Ads 1:08:32 Is Trump Charismatic? 1:13:29 Impeccable Honesty and Integrity 1:17:13 I Don’t Need to Convince Anyone of Anything 1:19:50 I Proactively Share My Purpose 1:22:53 Be the First to Humanise the Interaction 1:25:21 The Different Types of Charismatic People 1:30:30 Obama's Charisma 1:31:34 Why Charisma Is So Important 1:33:47 Ads 1:35:55 How Can I Use These Skills to Get a New Job or Promotion? 1:41:22 What Are Women Attracted To, in Your Opinion? 1:45:22 Are People Testing to See If You Have Standards? 1:49:35 Five Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You 1:54:10 Speaking Like a Leader 1:55:00 Pausing Instead of Using Filler Words 1:56:26 Does Body Language Matter When I’m Speaking? 1:57:49 The Fundamentals of Being Confident 1:59:33 What’s the Most Important Thing You’re Doing to Improve Your Well-Being? 2:03:07 What Are the Mixture of Emotions You Feel? 2:08:34 Is There Anything You Wish You Could Have Said to That Boy? Follow Charlie: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/sX0XNx4tBQb Charisma on Command - https://g2ul0.app.link/Bo2XEO2tBQb Charisma University - https://bit.ly/CUDOAC Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Get access to exclusive Diary of a CEO content: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGq-a57w-aPwyi3pW7XLiHw/join Sponsors: Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY Bon Charge - http://boncharge.com/diary?rfsn=8189247.228c0cb with code DIARY for 25% off ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code STEVEN10 for 10% off

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@PianoHits 2025-02-03

The most wisest thing i know is to NEVER spend your life trying to make people like you. People will always see their own version of you and that version of you will change in accordance to how they feel. Its out of our control even if we are / aren't these traits

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@zillaboop 2025-02-03

The episode highlights several key traits that can make people more likable and charismatic: 1. Genuine Confidence: People are drawn to those who are secure in themselves without being arrogant. Confidence shows through body language, tone of voice, and how someone carries themselves. 2. Active Listening: Truly paying attention when someone speaks, asking follow-up questions, and showing interest in others’ stories makes people feel valued and appreciated. 3. Empathy and Understanding: Being able to relate to others’ feelings and perspectives builds trust and deepens connections. 4. Positive Body Language: Open gestures, eye contact, and a warm smile can instantly make you more approachable and likable. 5. Authenticity: Being true to yourself instead of trying to fit into someone else’s expectations resonates with people. Authenticity often comes across as refreshing and trustworthy. 6. Humor and Playfulness: A good sense of humor and the ability to not take yourself too seriously makes interactions light-hearted and enjoyable. 7. Generosity of Spirit: Complimenting others genuinely, being kind without expecting something in return, and celebrating others’ successes foster goodwill. 8. Consistency and Reliability: Being dependable and keeping your word builds respect and trust over time. 9. Non-Judgmental Attitude: People feel safer and more comfortable around those who don’t pass judgment easily and create an accepting environment. 10. Passion and Enthusiasm: Expressing excitement and passion for your interests can be contagious, making people naturally gravitate towards you. These traits help create positive, lasting impressions in both personal and professional interactions.

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@thisismetommy 2025-02-03

I have no problem with those who don’t like me. I have a problem with those that pretend to.

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@TheDiaryOfACEO 2025-02-03

I’ve got a favour to ask! If you enjoy this conversation, please double check that you’ve liked the video and subscribed to the channel! That's a small way you can help us carry on doing this, really appreciate you! ❤🙏🏾

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@JimmySholtzzzZ 2025-02-04

My favorite quote from Maya Angelou says “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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@SOiTiSTrUe 2025-02-03

As someone who was assaulted as a child... I needed this, not just the begining but the honestly and now I don't feel as alone... I used to think something was wrong with me for feeling the same way! Thank you. Thank you so much.

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@matchbox3eb 2025-02-03

"Silence is a vacuum...and they pull people towards you" love it

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@lindarosas8457 2025-09-07

This man has a genuinely beautiful soul and HEART. His vulnerability is his STRENGTH.

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@BrooklynJackson-c7n 2026-02-09

I am absolutely unbothered by not being liked or being appreciated.

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@elevators_escalatorsandme 2026-05-15

that beat switch was illegal wtf 😭 headphones users got blessed fr 🔥

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