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Your Guide to Better Sex, Intimacy, & Love From a World-Leading Sex Therapist

2025-03-20 People & Blogs
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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you are going to learn how to have amazing sex, deeper intimacy, and create real, lasting love. If you feel like intimacy with your partner is rare, your desire is low, or that your marriage is even sexless, this conversation is for you. Here to deliver the most important sex advice you need to hear is renowned sex therapist and bestselling author, Vanessa Marin. Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist and a sex therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience helping people have healthier, more satisfying sex lives. She is known for her viral, no-shame, straight-to-the-point advice on how to have the best sex of your life. This conversation tackles everything you weren’t taught—and probably aren’t talking about—when it comes to sex. Mel also shares openly about her own sex life, difficulties with intimacy, and speaks openly in a way you’ve never heard before. Whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, this conversation is going to make you think differently about sex and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, relationship status, or gender. You’ll learn: -The real reason you feel disconnected in your sex life -The two different types of sex drives and why it matters -What to do if you’re on your way to a dry bedroom -What exactly to say if you’re not in the mood when your partner initiates sex If you feel like you can’t talk about sex, if you can’t ask for what you want, don’t know how to bring it up, are going through a dry spell, or want to have more sex but you’re exhausted, this episode is for you. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-273 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Welcome 01:23 Why You Should Stop Settling for Mediocre Sex. 04:08 Mel Personally Struggles with Sex Talk. 16:17 Chris’s Sex Questions & the Advice That Works. 39:03 How to Take Responsibility for Your Pleasure. 42:06 The Simple Trick to Save Your Sex Life. 52:52 How to Unlock Deeper Intimacy with Your Partner. 57:25 A Sex Therapist’s 3 Tips for Better Sex. 01:13:18 Your Best Sex Starts Today. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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@16bluegoose 2025-03-20

I love how Vanessa talks about how the best memories of sex are the funny and playful ones! When my husband and I had our first child, the thought of postpartum sex scared me. I kept thinking, “Will it hurt? Will it feel different?” The longer time went on, the more the fear started to build. But he was so patient and kind. When we finally decided it was time, he unhooked my bra and my boobs started leaking milk! I mean, they were SPRAYING. We just laughed and laughed about it, and all the fear of expectations disappeared. ❤ It was a wonderful reminder that sex can be so many things; romantic, messy, passionate, and even hilarious!

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@a.kd.jraghopurkumar8884 2025-05-06

been in survival mode for so long i forgot what it feels like to feel well. not just functioning, but actually well. the hidden herbs reminded me that healing doesnt have to be complicated. sometimes nature already gave us what we need, we just forgot how to use it

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@kv8dy 2025-04-22

23 years of marriage and it sure has its ups and downs , hormone changes and busy times in life. Right now we average about every other night. And it’s a million times better than when we first got married. It only gets better you guys!

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@virgilkirschner5717 2025-03-21

Eye contact? Try this, your Not quite touching nose to nose to nose but, you're pretty close. Now you're looking deeply into each other's eyes. You will begin to feel a connection like none you've never felt before. Ever. After about 5 minutes we were both had tears . Realizing how much deeper we were bonding our souls together. Those moments deeply and profoundly changed our relationship, forever.

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@hippieschick6473 2025-04-02

Fantastic! I have been married for 32 yrs together since high school..Hubby and I have been having sex a Longtime..We make time to talk over coffee everyday to connect and we have learned to always have a sex date every week!!!!!!! We make it happen and it's still happening into our late 50's! We are best friends and ultimately we have stayed lovers!!!!! ❤ Also I'm in perimenopause so I take hormones and keep things moist and in addition my mental health is on point! Hubby also monitors his hormone levels!

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@TWH-LLC 2025-07-20

I love how Mel is a little timid in the beginning of this intimate conversation and completely opens up and blooms in the process.

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@CindyKrueger-z4z 2025-03-21

Blissed-out!!! Love it, stealing that. This was a great video. My new partner and I are both older, and we implement the physical touch/words of affirmation/hot talk throughout the day. The connectivity is unbelievable. We talk, ask questions throughout the day, and kiss often, Perhaps this is one caveat of being 65/70, knowing what we want.

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@curiouscat3984 2025-04-02

I was raped when I was 19. I was disgusted with sex. I had tongonthrough counseling and healing through the years. God has given me the gift to overcome that truama and I now can enjoybsex with the love of my life.

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@nanmomm 2025-04-25

Mel, when she said "can't I just look at it" under her breath almost! I screamed out loud laughing! That was hilarious Mel!

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@hansshaffer3788 2026-04-15

Based on Chris' first question, and based on my experience as a husband of 15 years of an intense woman who gives her all at work and who has several health challenges, I'm going to guess that he feels like he has been initiating, but that your answer has become, more often not, "No, or not now, or I'm too exhausted, or maybe tomorrow"...and then the same thing happens over and over again, until a husband just gives up. He doesnt want to pressure you, so he's asking what he can do in the things iver which hr has control.

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