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The Brutal Truth About Relationships You Need to Hear

2024-05-27 People & Blogs
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Mel Robbins
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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Do you want to know the best relationship advice no one has ever told you before? In today’s episode, Mel is revealing the one rule about relationships you must know. There is a game-changing framework that will help any relationship go the distance, and once you hear it, you’ll want to share it with everyone you know. It reveals why some relationships fail, and it also gives you the secret to sustaining a strong and successful relationship. Here to explain this “4 Levels” framework is New York Times bestselling author Matthew Hussey. Matthew has been helping people for more than 17 years to feel more confident and in control of their relationships. His YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views. By the end of today’s episode, you’ll know when it’s time to let go of a relationship, when it’s worth fighting for, and the 4 habits of all successful relationships. Matthew's website: https://matthewhussey.com/ Follow Matthew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey For more resources, including links to Matthew’s new book, YouTube, and social media platforms, click here for the podcast episode page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-177 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast In this episode: 00:02:02: Do you want to feel more confident and in control of your relationships? 00:03:11: What the 4 level framework for any relationship is. 00:05:28: The level that is the most dangerous level to be stuck in with someone. 00:07:22: How to really know if someone is willing to commit to you. 00:09:35: How to have the “what is this” conversation with the person you are newly dating. 00:12:02: How to calmly communicate what you need in a relationship. 00:16:25: If you feel resentment and anger in your relationship, listen to this. 00:19:00: How Matthew almost messed up his relationship with his wife. 00:23:20: When you are getting mixed signals from someone, text them this. 00:26:45 What you need to know if someone you love is wasting your time. 00:28:05: What Matthew means when he says this is THE hardest conversation you will ever have. 00:32:08: How to truly understand what you want and what matters to you. 00:34:12: Date the person, not their potential. 00:36:28: Why love is not all you need for a healthy and long relationship. 00:39:42: How to know if you are compatible with someone you are with. 00:42:10: What it looks like to value yourself in a relationship. #RelationshipAdvice #MixedSignals #RelationshipFramework — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah #lifeadvice #selfdevelopment #habits

Top Comments (10)

@thematthewhussey 2024-05-27

I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation Mel. Thank you for having me. And thank you everyone here for watching!

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@natyeastcoast 2024-06-02

24:56 “Because no one, no one, cares about your time and your life as much as you, and expecting them to is a recipe for wasting your life”

2.3k 57 replies
@lindas.dallas9464 2024-06-02

✓ Admiration ✓Mutual Attraction ✓Commitment ✓Compatability

1.9k 33 replies
@ShakuenC 2024-06-01

That part where it's mentioned that it's not about resenting them for the time we spent and they wasted, it's about us taking accountability of not having honored our standard... I really needed to hear that 😔

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@cafecitoconnicolle 2024-07-19

While running, I clicked on this video, I suddenly fell to my knees and started bawling. "No one cares about your time or your life as much as you do"—such powerful words of wisdom.❤

1.1k 46 replies
@TheGalactica2001 2024-12-16

The problem is that some people lie about what they want just to keep you in a relationship

711 37 replies
@mastikalyana2761 2025-08-26

'Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.'

605 12 replies
@valerieburton4583 2024-05-28

Confirmed that my hubby and I are good even after 43 years❣️

580 16 replies
@patriciakilgo23 2025-01-13

As a woman, I always felt like I had to settle in relationships. Then I read 'Power of Assertiveness' by Mind-bloomery, and it was like a light bulb went off. I realized I deserve to be treated with respect and love, all the time. Since then, I have found someone who truly values me for who I am.

562 16 replies
@AnnaMaeDavies 2025-10-12

What touched me most was her message that love isn’t a constant feeling; it’s a daily choice. It’s about doing the work

105 3 replies

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