“Something Funny Happens When You Stop Needing Women” - Mark Manson

The most unattractive trait in a man is needing the world to validate what he hasn’t built within himself. Real confidence is quiet because it doesn’t need approval to stand tall.

Christ, can you believe that people used to get together without men having to study dating for couple of years

I bartend at a fine dining restaurant: I see all the first dates/couples/etc. if they date for looks/money, they are NEVER happy. If they laugh at each other, that’s the key to life. Find a girl you can laugh with, the rest will fall in place.

Desperation is a stinky cologne.

In my 41 years on this Earth, I have learned one thing. The easiest way to attract women is to be in a relationship with one. You will never have more opportunity and more temptation than when you are committed to a person. For some reason other women will flock to you and try to take you away from your girl. It's an odd irony of life. Also, when you stop searching for women, or are legit not really interested in a relationship because you want to put your focus somewhere else, again. That's when they seem to come for you. Bizarre mystery of the universe

Divorced, middle aged, and not looking to date any longer. I don't need anyone else's problems, I don't need a new friend, I don't want chaos.

Literally just love yourself and be yourself. Keep it real!

If you've been a guy struggling with wanting a relationship but not having one, and you finally get to a point where you no longer want to deal with relationships, there's possibility for peace within. If you really reach a point where you don't need a relationship, don't need to hook up, there's no guarantee you'll be more attractive to others (the factors of looks, status, charisma, and wealth all continue to count heavily in determining attractiveness) ... but if you truly no longer give a damn, then there's liberation. You won't be getting laid, but you won't actually care about it. Make use of the right hand when needed (or not), and live the rest of your life free of that former burden. Meanwhile, try to be a good soul ... have compassion for others (and oneself), don't expect perfection from anyone. Feel free to continue having hope for humanity. Be open to good things happening.

Hello you beauties. Watch the full episode with Mark - https://youtu.be/kCRGasHlPP8

I figured this out in my 20s. I thought of it as "be a white hat cowboy". Polite but unyielding, sociable, but confident. Be sure of yourself, but listen well. Clean and attentive to my appearance, but not styled. It was a simple thing, but made all the difference. I had quite the run. What that did not do was prepare me for the endless attack on me from a LTR to serve her needs. I have had 5 LTR. One i married for 13 years. Current is unicorn shaped, but not traditional. Right now, the problem isn't attracting women. It is keeping one that isn't trying to use you as a retirement plan.