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How to Stop Caring What People Think of You

2025-01-09 People & Blogs
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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Today, you’re going to learn the simple trick to stop caring what other people think. If you find that you take things personally, worry what other people think about you, are scared of being judged, or find that you can’t stop overthinking, you’ll love this episode. You’ll learn how to stop people-pleasing and start doing what is right for you. Featured in today’s episode is Chrissy Teigen, who opens up about her own struggles with people-pleasing. Mel gives Chrissy the coaching session of a lifetime, and what they talk about together will resonate deeply with you. This episode is both deeply personal and highly practical. You’ll learn: Why you care so much about what other people think. How to Let Them think bad thoughts about you. The tools you need to live your life on your own terms again. Get ready to take back control of your life again and live it for yourself. To listen to Chrissy Teigen’s new podcast on Audible, Self-Conscious with Chrissy Teigen, go to https://audible.com/chrissyandmel Get a copy of Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory, which she mentions in this episode, https://www.melrobbins.com/letthemtheory For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-252 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 0:00 Introduction 9:51 The Role of Childhood in Self-Esteem 12:26 Chrissy's Struggle with Public Perception 15:00 Taking Back Control from How Others Perceive You 18:01 Setting an Example For Your Loved Ones 25:19 Understanding Self-Criticism 33:09 Taking Control of Your Self-Worth 38:33 Real-Life Applications of 'Let Them' — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Top Comments (10)

@ElizabethMcNeil-k5w 2025-01-09

I just found another gem on page 140 of the Let Them Theory that really hit home....'There is enough happiness, success, and money to go around for absolutely everyone including you' 😍

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@edwardwong3074 2025-01-09

I made a mistake of saying something wrong at work and kept blaming myself and thinking about other people hating me. Listening to your podcast has helped calm my anxiety and nerviousness. Thanks for sharing, you put my mind at ease. People make mistakes we are only human .

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@MukeshPatel-k8x9q 2025-08-07

If you're reading this right now, I just want to say; I'm rooting for you. We’re strangers, but that doesn’t mean I don’t care. I know what it’s like to feel like you're pushing a boulder uphill. I felt that way until I picked up Manifest the Unseen by Luna Rivers I can’t explain it perfectly, but it changed my whole perspective. After checking it out on youtube and reading it things have been flowing—money, peace, confidence. Maybe this is your moment too. Stay open. Wishing you more than you ever imagined! 💫💰

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@martastrykowska7635 2025-01-30

Stop wasting your energy in trying to get people to love you. Use the energy from the people who already love you ❤

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@MUSHIN_888 2025-05-10

I’m going from very socially anxious, believing people are constantly looking at me and judging me, to being myself and not caring what people think. The dramatic change is an amazing feeling and the freedom is awesome

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@RisaRose369 2025-01-09

My dad always said you can please some of the people some of the time but not all the people all the time!

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@lauriealicea5566 2025-01-14

This is my biggest battle in life too. Constantly over-thinking.

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@GizmoEye 2025-01-09

One message for Chrissy : People who want you to be really good, they are terrible on thier own. They reflect what they want for themselves on you. Don't get stuck on thier drama.

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@QueenofConfusion-o7q 2025-10-24

People make stupid, hurtful statements without even thinking about how it might cause someone else pain. Sometimes you can only withstand so much of that.

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@cinrod312 2026-02-10

I always feel misunderstood and hate when people think I have bad intentions. That is a huge hang up for me.

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