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How to Build the Life You Want (Even When You Feel Overloaded, Exhausted, & Uncertain)

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Astronaut Kellie Gerardi: Designing Extraordinary Lives by Rewriting Limits

Discover the blueprint for turning seemingly unreachable dreams into reality by adjusting the limits you place on your imagination. Learn how astronaut Kellie Gerardi balances ambition, motherhood, and vulnerability to design an extraordinary life.

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  • Ordinary people actively build the capability to achieve extraordinary outcomes through focused effort.
  • Design your reputation intentionally by defining desired professional adjectives and acting them out consistently.
  • Transparency, not silence, is the path through struggle, actively preventing self-destruction.
  • Balance overwhelming goals (space travel, career) with personal commitments (motherhood) using analogies like juggling glass vs. plastic balls.
  • Shift your internal dialogue from "Why me?" to "Why not me?" to pursue your entire vision board simultaneously.

This episode features Mel Robbins speaking with astronaut and bioastronautics researcher Kellie Gerardi about her journey from working coat check to space exploration. Listeners will gain actionable strategies for setting expansive goals, managing external judgment, and handling sensitive personal challenges like IVF with integrity and vulnerability.

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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Feeling overloaded, discouraged, and overwhelmed? You’re not alone. Today’s episode will show you how to keep going and explore new possibilities for yourself, even during uncertain times. Mel’s guest today, Kellie Gerardi, is here to give you the step-by-step process to building the life you want. Kellie is an astronaut and bioastronautics researcher who went from working coat check to leading research missions in space. And Kellie doesn’t just take you into space - she takes you into the real-life moments most people never talk about. She speaks about infertility, IVF, ambition, motherhood, and big dreams in a candid way you rarely hear discussed. Together, Mel and Kellie walk through 3 truths that will change how you show up to your life. In this episode, you’ll hear about: -How to keep going even during challenging times. -The question that changes everything: Why not me? -Why extraordinary things aren't reserved for extraordinary people. -You can become the person you want to be, but you have to act like it first. -Why hiding isn’t strength, it’s self-destruction. -Rules are made to be broken. -People will judge you no matter what you do. Let them. Whether you're going after a goal, discouraged in the face of setbacks, or just trying to get through the day, this episode will give you the motivation, courage, and tools you need. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-328/ Click here to get tickets to Mel's live tour, Let Them Tour 2026: https://www.melrobbins.com/the-let-them-tour/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet the Guest 6:03 Your Dreams Can Become Reality 10:00 How to Design Your Reputation 16:03 What Seeing Earth From Space Reveals About Life 25:44 How to Go After Big Goals Without Guilt 35:19 The Part of IVF No One Talks About 40:19 Holding Grief and Hope At The Same Time 45:06 Stop Believing You Have to Go Through Hard Times Alone 53:04 The 1 Question That Changes Everything — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Top Comments (10)

@TheMotiversalHub 2025-09-28

If You Are Reading This I Am Praying For You To You Will Get What You Want ❤

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@SteveGamlin 2025-09-25

I lost my beloved wife Tina, unexpectedly, last December. Several days later, one of my first decisions was to be very open and honest about my Grief Journey on social media, as a guest on podcasts, on-stage as a speaker, etc. Why? For the same reason that Kellie has shared her challenging IVF journey: to help others who may be very fresh in their own painful days. I can also relate to the point Mel and Kellie made about 'feeling pitied' and having people around me be very uncomfortable, unsure of what to say, etc. I am still me. I miss my Tina, every day. I am blessed with a loving family. I will not suffer in silence. I will continue to push forward to honor her wishes and her legacy, and to help as many people as I can. Thank you Mel and Kellie. This conversation was very helpful and inspiring.

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@parismadrid8586 2025-09-25

Maybe this is why i randomly woke up at 4 am ❤

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@suzannesharp2563 2025-09-25

Society- “How dare you go out and pursue those dreams that we said were so important.” She nailed it. Don’t allow yourself to be shamed into society’s trap.

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@melissamariephotography6186 2025-09-25

I've not known of her before but have loved this episode. She is so eloquent and beautiful to listen to. I love to listen to strong, well-spoken women :)

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@JulieCWilson 2025-09-25

27:10 I have a hunch that there are SO MANY mothers out there who have sacrificed their career aspirations because they felt burdened or overwhelmed by the demands of parenthood. And there’s a twinge of jealousy when they see other mothers making it work. Even if it’s subconscious, it could be what’s driving the nasty online comments about you being a “bad” mom. Someone criticizing other people makes the person feel better or justified in their choices. I love that you’re slowly and steadily challenging the narrative around this despite it being hard 👏❤

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@DiaryLunarPsyche 2025-09-25

You don’t need to know the whole path to build the life you want, just the next step. The life you want isn’t built in perfect conditions... it’s built in the chaos

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@cbkimber88 2026-02-18

I just love today’s guest. The idea to allow yourself to dream big is so freeing. For most of our lives we are told to be realistic and only set realistic expectations….but fail to realize we are limiting our potential in doing so. So let’s dream big and see what can happen.

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@jessicathomas7682 2026-03-31

This one actually made me cry. Needed to hear this one. This was such an eye opener for me.

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@EricaR-u8l 2026-03-13

Wonderful interview. She’s a hero🎉

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