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How To Make Your Life Exciting Again | Mel Robbins

2024-07-18 People & Blogs
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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — New research shows that your work, your life, and your relationships will get boring. Today, you’ll learn a simple tool you can use to make your life exciting, joyful, and energizing again. This profound conversation will allow you to truly understand and connect the dots between why you've become bored with what used to excite you – and how you can create more meaning in your life. In this episode, Mel is joined by the renowned neuroscientist from University College London and MIT, Dr. Tali Sharot. She is here to teach you the groundbreaking science and research about how you can start feeling excitement about your life again. Dr. Sharot is a behavioral neuroscientist and the director of the Affective Brain Lab at University College London. Her research integrates neuroscience, behavioral economics, and psychology to study how emotion and behavior influences people's beliefs and decisions. After today, you will know how to use Dr. Sharot’s research to make your life sparkle again and reignite happiness in your day-to-day life. You’ll also learn very specific, tactical things you can do to make your vacations better, avoid a midlife crisis, and improve the experience of your everyday life. By the time you finish listening, you’ll know EXACTLY what to do to create any change you want. Dr. Tali’s website: https://affectivebrain.com For more resources, including links to Dr. Tali’s book, website, and social media platforms, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-193 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 01:42: The spontaneous adventure Mel went on last night. 02:35: Do you feel like your life has gotten boring? 04:47: The research-backed reason why life is getting so boring. 06:52: What ‘habituation’ is and how it impacts every aspect of your life. 08:04: Why change is foundational for happiness and joy. 10:53: How long should your vacation be for ultimate happiness? 12:04: Why the anticipation of good things is what actually makes you happy. 13:51: 2 ways to hack happiness and feel better starting today. 15:02: Why do you feel like you are outgrowing your romantic relationship? 16:34: Why 'taking space’ in your relationship is an essential action to take. 18:02: Do this exercise with Mel to better understand habituation. 19:22: The surprising situation you will find your partner the most attractive in. 21:18: What is happening in your brain when you experience something new. 23:30: Next time you feel bored and burned out, take a break. 24:45: A simple mindfulness exercise to find gratitude for what you have. 26:05: Based on neuroscience, this is how habituation is impacting your sex life. 29:34: Why, between ages 40 and 60, you will be the unhappiest. 32:30: If you hate your job, try THIS before you quit. 34:45: The one action you need to take today to find peace. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Top Comments (10)

@mallorygraf8574 2024-07-18

The first 30 years of my life were filled with so much family drama and sadness...esp first 20 years due to my parents divorce and their subsequent horrible life choices that affected my sisters and me. The unpredictability of those decisions never made me feel safe or secure and there was no routine other than the fact that someone would be drunk later that day. All this to say that due to my NOT boring childhood, I welcome routine, calmness into my life with open arms at my age of 62!

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@jtedder2489 2024-07-20

I’ve started putting this to work. Instead of going to our lake house and raking all weekend I signed up for a pontoon boat bird watching tour and a kayak bird watching tour at the Audubon Grebe Festival in August. I also signed up for a few 4 hour bus tours through our community college to SF Fleet Week, Half Moon Bay Pumpkin Festival, and Dickens Fair at the SF Cow Palace. Totally out of my introverted comfort zone but my weekends have to become more than housecleaning and grocery shopping.

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@Bluejewels422 2024-07-18

Explains a lot about being bored and the monotony of everyday life and relationships.

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@Mandragoraever 2024-07-26

Our society is so much spoiled that we started complaining about simple and stable things and looking for a constant excitement

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@MauiJOY 2024-09-01

When I was a flight attendant, my love life with my husband was great..so glad to see him after being 3 days away...when I took early retirement, we divorced after just 8 months as I realized he cleaned the house in anticipation of my coming home that now became MY task along with so many other things including me noticing actually how he was not present when he drank everyday. He was not a violent drunk, just absent...no initiation of new or fun...This is making me understand it even more and validate my feelings that by my being away, having my own adventures then returning...things did "re-sparkled" LOL Perhaps we need to all create some real changes from routines.

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@danawright8306 2024-07-28

I saw this post that said, commit to try 8 new things a month. 8 is a lot but I love and enjoying the challenge. And no I'm not bored. So even when I have nothing to do, I have new memories which keeps me happy. Planned trips, leaves room for excitement to come!

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@the.toxic.phoenix 2024-07-19

Sex life - if you've had libido checked by doc or that's not your issue, it could be that you're exhausted or feeling under valued by your partner, or your partner doesn't bother to make it pleasurable for you

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@bigboss_una 2024-09-03

Mel Robbins single handedly changing my life is my highlight of 2024.❤️🇿🇦

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@kendrarhodes6425 2025-08-28

Thursday is my favorite because I’m looking forward to Friday and the weekend. 😁 ❤

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@payalk2898 2026-02-05

Introduce variety 27:10 Small things like changing your route to work or a walk Talk to someone new who is not your usual personality type Do an online course 32:08 Change of environment: WFO and then WFH is good 35:00 try something new

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